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This article was co-authored by Rebecca Tenzer, MAT, MA, LCSW, CCTP, CGCS, CCATP, CCFP and by wikiHow staff writer, Hannah Madden. Rebecca Tenzer is the owner and head clinician at Astute Counseling Services, a private counseling practice in Chicago, Illinois. With over 18 years of clinical and educational experience in the field of mental health, Rebecca specializes in the treatment of depression, anxiety, panic, trauma, grief, interpersonal relationships using a combination of Cognitive Behavioral therapy, Psychodynamic therapy, and other evidence-based practices. Rebecca holds a Bachelor of Arts (BA) in Sociology and Anthropology from DePauw University, a Master in Teaching (MAT) from Dominican University, and a Master of Social Work (MSW) from the University of Chicago. Rebecca has served as a member of the AmeriCorps and is also a Professor of Psychology at the collegiate level. Rebecca is trained as a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist (CBT), a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional (CCTP), a Certified Grief Counseling Specialist (CGCS), a Clinical Anxiety Treatment Professional (CCATP), and a Certified Compassion Fatigue Professional (CCFP). Rebecca is also a member of the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Society of America and The National Association of Social Workers. This article has been viewed 5,599 times.

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Find Out if Your Spouse is on a Dating Site

The concept of everlasting love is often threatened by numerous dating websites and online dating apps. In these apps or sites, people can interact, flirt, and have love affairs without anyone knowing about it.

Sometimes people overlook the red flags because they refuse to believe their spouse is cheating on them. Other times, the red flags are impossible to ignore, and you start questioning if there is someone else.

Luckily, the answer is not impossible to find. At least, not as impossible as an adulterer would like it to be. If your spouse is having an affair on a dating website, the technology won’t let him go undercover, giving you more opportunities to find out.

Here is how:

Access their browsing history on shared devices

Back in the day, some love letters forgotten by mistake in a book were all you had, but today browsing history has changed everything. The browsing history on shared devices will quickly help you track the steps of your potentially cheating spouse.

Search for dating sites used by people to find love or have love affairs and make a list of the most popular sites. See if you can find any of them in the browsing history.

Some of the most popular sites that target married people to have an affair are MarriedCafe.com, NoStringsAttached.com, FriendFinder.com, Match.com, and eHarmony.com.

We recommend you keep an eye out for these websites.

Apps should be on your radar also if you get suspicious of your spouse. Look for famous apps, such as Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, XO, Facebook Dating, and Grindr, which, according to Digital Trends, are the top dating apps for 2020.

You should target apps that encourage affairs like Vaulty Stocks, HAA, and TigerText.These apps are used to hide photos and videos, or even make text messages disappear from the phone. There are infinite apps to hide information from everyone else, and Lifewire posted a list about the best vault apps for 2020.

Generally, anything with the words “match” and “love” in it is an alarm signal.

Remember! It’s illegal to access someone’s device without their express permission.

Yes, we’re talking about potential criminal charges in this case. But you don’t have to worry because there are other legal ways to find out the truth.

Google their personal details and profile photo

Google is the king of online search and offers a tremendous amount of all types of information. This is why if you want to do an investigation by yourself, Google may be your best ally. If you like using other search engines, Lifewire offers a list of the top search engines of 2020.

Run a search using your spouse’s email address, name, phone number, and see what Google or any other search engine has to say about them.  You can use Google images and search for your spouse’s profile photos that you can download from their social media accounts. They might show up in the search results.

Join the most popular dating sites and apps – for a test

You can easily create a fake profile on these sites or apps if you’ve found that your spouse is on dating sites. This way, you can conduct your investigation from the inside.

Type in your spouse’s physical features and location and see what comes up. To get better and faster results, adjust your profile to meet your spouse’s love interests, so the site or app can match you two easier. This will work mostly on dating apps like Tinder that allow people to meet based on location and similar preferences.

If you still have doubts, call a private investigator.

Before doing anything, you might regret later, learn what you can legally do according to the state you live in. It is essential to do this research and know what you can or can’t do according to the law.

Also, by doing this, you avoid getting into legal problems you might not even be aware of. Hiring a private investigator will help you legally gather all the information you are looking for.

Sometimes, the old fashioned way to find out if your spouse is a cheater is the most reliable way! While the browsing history, Google, and other online investigating strategies may provide hints and help you make assumptions, a private investigator will deliver irrefutable proof, which is what you need in this case!

If you want to use your spouse’s dating profile as evidence in a divorce case, the evidence must be legally obtained. Otherwise, the evidence could be useless. The best way to avoid legal problems when looking for evidence is by hiring a professional private investigator.

A private investigator can find all the information you need and more, with the experience and tools they have, they will deliver efficiently.

Last year, I caught my husband on a dating site - actually, it was a swingers' or 'lifestyle' site. At the time, we were recently engaged and (I thought) very happy. 

His online profile had a fake name and age and he’d been messaging both men and women explicit photos. He'd also arranged hookups. When I confronted him, he denied it until he realised I’d seen the messages.

He reacted angrily at first, almost blaming me, but was later very remorseful. He said he hadn’t met anyone, but he enjoyed the flirting and getting people to hook up. I tried to believe him at the time and as there were no other issues in the relationship, we decided to stay together. We had some relationship counselling, but I didn’t find it very helpful.

Six months later we got married. But now, just under a year into our marriage, I feel increasingly paranoid - constantly checking his phone. I never find anything and I know it’s wrong, but I can’t seem to stop. 

I love my husband so much and otherwise our relationship is great. I desperately want to trust him again but I just don’t know how to go about this. We are talking about how I feel and my husband insists he loves me. I just don’t know what to do.

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I’m not surprised you’re feeling this way. You don’t actually have what you thought you had and that’s a huge shock - it can’t just be set aside and forgotten.

Discovering something like this (quite apart from making sense of it) is highly challenging. But it’s likely that he means it when he tells you he loves you and wants the marriage to work. The problem is that you’re now in completely different places. I can well imagine that he wants to move on from this, whereas you’re looking for answers and reassurance that it won’t happen again. Despite wanting to trust him, you clearly can’t. You look on his phone and find nothing, but the doubts remain. 

So firstly, checking his phone is completely pointless. If he wants to continue getting in touch with swingers, he will find a way of doing that. So my recommendation is that you stop policing him and instead, start talking about what happened differently. Understandably, the way you’re both managing things right now is only adding to the problem and perpetuating a cycle of mistrust and resentment. I doubt that’s helping either of you, so perhaps it’s time to try something different.

Many, many people have fantasies about what they’d like to do/be/have/say/act upon. Sex is no different. Therapy rooms across the country are filled with clients whose partners have ‘uncovered’ a secret that if left to fester, has the power to destroy what they both so desperately want to keep hold of. The trick is to try and understand what all of this is really about. I’m sorry that couple counselling didn’t help you at the time. Often it does, but sometimes people aren’t quite ready to embark on that journey and maybe that was the case for you. It might be helpful next time around but in the meantime, let’s consider the problem you’re facing with your husband.

From your perspective, the worst scenario might be that he secretly wanted to have multiple partners, run away from your relationship and not care how bereft you were or what happened to you. There – I’ve said what’s probably worrying you most . So now that’s out of the way, let’s focus on a more likely scenario. I’ve worked with many couples who faced some sort of ‘finding out all of a sudden’ issue. There is always lots of pain and fear, often accompanied by a sense of betrayal. These are all completely understandable feelings. But it’s helpful to look beyond these and think about what’s happened in a different way. Many people fantasise about sexual situations. For some, it stays solely in their head. Others dabble a little and take the fantasy to another level. Social media equips people to act on their fantasy and potentially make contact ‘just to see what happens’ in ways that were never possible before. Occasionally they do hook up with others who share similar tastes, and yes, sometimes this does lead to relationships breaking down. Often though, the process of getting in touch with others is to satisfy a nagging concern that they may not be attractive, desirable or even likable. Sometimes too, it can be about wanting to get in touch with a part of themselves that they think a partner would ridicule or be revolted by. Given that we all grow up with different experiences of sexual knowledge and attitudes, fantasising about stuff can help us get in touch with things that have felt ‘naughty’ or’ forbidden’ or just plain exciting, but about which we may also feel a sense of shame or fear of being shamed. The curious thing about all this is that they often compartmentalise this side of themselves from everything else in their lives, including their partner. It not unusual to find that someone had almost developed a second persona, known only to themselves. This might sound odd but people are  - well – complicated and perhaps that’s the first thing that needs acknowledging in this case.

It sounds to me like you’re both stuck on ‘transmit’. You tell him how hurt you’ve been and he reassures you he loves you. Unfortunately though this isn’t reassuring you, so maybe changing the conversation might present some different opportunities. Have you ever actually been curious about what he’s done rather than horrified? That’s a challenging question I know but if you understood a little more about why it seemed important to him, what he felt the experience did for him, you might understand something about your own relationship together and whether you might want to make some changes. Now – for the avoidance of doubt I am not suggesting that you put aside your sense of mistrust, join a swingers’ club or even forgive him. But I am inviting you to think together about how you connect sexually and emotionally,  instead of rehashing the actual events. This would be much bigger conversation and would potentially help both of you to adjust how you want to approach and make sense of what’s happened.

I am struck by your comment that apart from this everything in the relationship is great. To be honest, I do find that quite hard to believe because what  is central to everything is your lack of trust. Relationships can’t function healthily where one partner is constantly on red alert about what their other half is up to. You say it yourself, the paranoia you feel now can’t be assuaged by his reassurances and that’s because something very fundamental has been ruptured. This can only begin to recover if you start sharing things at a deeper level. This won’t be an easy task. I’m sure that you simply wish that he’d never done it and things were just as you had always thought them to be. Yes, you can continue to check his phone but eventually, this will reduce you both to a frazzle. Instead, this really needs to be a joint enterprise to work out if there are areas in your own relationship that need attention. Only you can decide if you’re going to trust him again and he has to earn that trust from you. He didn’t do anything illegal but he did engage in something that although felt very exciting (and for many people a harmless and engaging pursuit), it nonetheless left you feeling betrayed and lied to. No one made him do this. I suspect he took the approach that what you didn’t know wouldn’t hurt you. Quite possibly he thought of it as harmless fun and in some situations that’s all it is – but not when the result is lies within a committed relationship. I also think that although he denies it, you’re also left with the nagging doubt that had you not discovered the photos, he might have actually met up with someone. 

All of this needs talking about together. Now, potentially, you might discover that he can’t live his life without connecting to other people sexually. Some couples can work this out, but in my experience it nearly always ends in tears for one of them. I say this because I’m encouraging you to ‘dig deep’ and understand your relationship better and that does, undoubtedly come with a risk that you find something that you can’t live with. Then you will have big decisions to make. Having said that though, many people have a dabble and having done so, find that other things are more important. I suspect this is where your husband is at now. 

So, you have some choices here. You can go on phone checking which will wear you down and exhaust you or work on this from the angle I’ve suggested. It won’t be easy, but you tell me you love each other very much and that is often a sure-fire winner to getting through tough conversations.

Ammanda Major is a Relationship Counsellor and Sex Therapist and Head of Clinical Practice at Relate.

If you have a relationship worry you would like some help with, please send it to askammanda@relate.org.uk*

Your problem will be posted online, but all communications will maintain anonymity and confidentiality.

*Ammanda is not able to reply individually to every email we receive, so please see our relationship help pages for further support. 

A few weekends ago, Chelsie Wilson spotted Tinder on her boyfriend’s phone. She was angry. They’d met on the dating app seven months earlier and he’d promised that he wouldn’t download it on his new phone. Now, he was full of excuses. He claimed Tinder had transferred automatically from his old device, that he liked to swipe through her profile pictures and read their old messages. But Wilson didn’t believe him.

A few days later, Wilson went in to work at a credit union in St Louis and confessed to colleagues that she thought her boyfriend might be cheating on her. A co-worker mentioned Swipebuster, a new website that scans Tinder’s public database and reveals whether someone has a profile and the last time they used it for the low price of $4.99.

Wilson is not normally the jealous type, but she had a “gut feeling” that something was wrong.

So she paid the $5 and ran a search.

Technology has made it easier than ever to be unfaithful. Apps like Tinder, Bumble and Grindr present a never-ending rolodex of hookups-to-be, while messaging services store illicit dinner plans in password-protected phones. But it’s also easier than ever to catch a cheating partner with a vast selection of websites, apps and spyware that can monitor their mobile footprints.

Clandestine services, such as Swipebuster, that allow jealous lovers to track someone’s activity without their knowledge are the most controversial. They range from websites that scrape public data (perfectly legal) to spyware such as FlexiSPY and mSpy that, once covertly installed, enable remote surveillance of a person’s phone (not so legal). On the more ethical side are apps such as Couple Tracker and mCouple that allow partners to consensually access each other’s texts, calls, Facebook activity and GPS location.

And then there’s the flat-out weird, such as smoke detector hidden cameras and mattresses with motion sensors that expose questionable activity. These technologies can provide closure to a suspicious partner, but they can also stoke paranoia and exacerbate the very trust issues they seek to fix.

Couples do not snoop on one another because they are unethical monsters. They snoop to get tangible proof their suspicions. Any therapist or good friend will tell you it’s better to talk to your partner in person than install an app that tracks their location, but if the answer to “are you cheating on me?” is “no”, it can be tough to accept the denial and move on. Doubt can be as powerful as certainty.

Sex therapist Jennine Estes doesn’t judge clients who have resorted to spyware. “Often, their snooping has a payout,” she says. “They find things their partner would not ’fess up to, and my job is to help them process what happened.”

Wilson found out through Swipebuster that her boyfriend had logged on to Tinder the same morning she did the search. After he denied that he used the app, Wilson told him she had “ways to find out” that his profile was active. The next weekend, she asked to see his phone and threatened to cut off all contact if he resisted. He caved. Wilson saw that between November and January, her boyfriend had messaged up to eight women on Tinder (she was too nervous to look at the more recent months). In one exchange, he asked a woman if she wanted to meet up. “You’re single, right?” she asked. “Of course, aren’t you?” he responded.

In one exchange he asked a woman if she wanted to meet. 'You’re single?' she asked. 'Of course, aren’t you?' he answered

Ethics aside, covert monitoring technology is also legally controversial. Since Swipebuster uses public data, the website is lawful, but in most states it is illegal to track information from someone’s device without their consent, according to David Klein, a lawyer who specializes in technology and marketing law. Many spyware companies will claim their products are designed for the legal purposes of monitoring minors or in some cases company employees, but their websites usually also market to suspicious husbands and wives.

On the other hand, tracking apps that couples mutually agree to use can be both legal and helpful in the right scenario. Therapist Estes says full transparency can be particularly effective in the aftermath of an affair, when trust is shattered. “Words can lose value when somebody’s been violated,” she says. “These apps help give them proof … that their partner’s behaviors and words are matching up.”

Mik Bauer says Couple Tracker has helped him and his husband of four years work out trust issues. Both had been unfaithful, and his partner struggled with jealousy related to Bauer’s frequent business travel. “The app gives him peace of mind,” says the 38 year-old. “He can have that confidence of knowing where I’m at.”

The downside, of course, is that these apps can encourage paranoia. There are often GPS glitches, one of which initially made Bauer’s husband think he was at Chicago’s Trump International Hotel and Tower rather than a conference room, and checking your spouse’s phone can quickly become an addiction.

Monica, who declined to give her last name, says Couple Tracker amplified jealousy in her relationship. Though only her boyfriend had cheated, he installed the app on her phone and constantly bombarded her with questions.

Her GPS would sometimes fail and he would suspect an affair. “It was like a leash,” says the 42-year-old bartender with three kids. While part of her liked being able to hold him accountable for late nights, the app raised too many doubts. “I always wondered: was he doing this or that? Why’s he there?” she says. “It just brought up more issues than there were to begin with.”

While Estes says the apps can help ease short-term pain, over the long term they create a dynamic in which a couple relies on technology more than one another for trust. “The partner can never give comfort and reassurance because the other person’s always going into their phone and saying: ‘What about this, what about that?’” she says. “It can drive a huge wedge between relationships.”

After Wilson saw her boyfriend’s Tinder messages, she cried on his couch while he begged her not to leave. He said all the right things and “swore on his life” he had not had an actual affair. Still, Wilson isn’t sure she can ever trust him again. And while she’s glad Swipebuster exists and admits a tracking app could help with jealousy, another digital fix feels desperate.

“I really like that idea that technology that can help you know if your partner’s being faithful,” she says. “But it also makes me so sad that in this day and age, these apps are what people have to resort to.”

Do you want to find out what websites your husband has been visiting?

Are you looking for advice on the best way to discover this?  

Perhaps you want to know a way to do this, without them finding out you have been tracking their web usage? 

If so, keep scrolling down because I have listed 10 ideas to help you satisfy this desire. 

If you’re interested in finding out more about your husband’s web usage, you may also be interested in using this communications tracker tool.

This tool can reveal who they are communicating with on their phone, plus what smartphone apps they’re using, among other things. 

It’s commonly used by spouses who are suspicious about their partner’s behavior, because it’s 100% discreet. There’s no chance of getting found out with this tool. 

With that said, let’s take a look at some of the best ways to find out what websites your husband has been using.

Best Way To Find Out What Websites Your Partner Is On

1. Go through your partner’s browsing history

If you have access to your husband’s phone or PC, the first thing you should do which is the easiest is to check his browser history. Many browsers offer different options to find this, so it depends on what he's using.

Like in Google Chrome, they're two ways you can find this. Firstly, you can click open the ‘menu’ at the top-right of the window, which will display the ‘search history’. The second method is to click "Control + H" on the computer keyboard your partner uses, and the browser history will pop up. You can use this approach for other browsers.

Also, you can make a list of popular dating websites, to check if you can find any of them on your husband’s history. Make sure you target sites like Match.com and eHarmony that encourages infidelity.

Finally, understand that you're taking a risk snooping on your partner - more, so this can lead to a split. It’s not a healthy thing to do and will surely make him have a bad impression about you. No doubt, if you have good reasons to suspect he has been on a dating website, on his mobile phone or PC, it’s fine; however, if you're doing this out of jealousy, it doesn't speak well of you.

2. Google search your partner’s profile

Google is one of the easiest ways to find people online. Here, you need limited information like his name, phone number, and email to find out if your partner has been snooping. 

First, start with searching for your husband’s name; chances are, that he may not use his real name for dating profiles on dating sites. You can also add the city you are based in as a backup. During the search, you can click on "images" to see if his photo will pop up. If you are in luck, it might display a number of sites he has been using and if relevant, the various dating profiles he has.

Also remember that while searching for his name, use quotation marks, to help you search for a specific phrase. It will help narrow down your search. For example, if you're looking for the name ‘Noah Williams’ two million results may pop up, but if you envelop the name with a quote, the results will be streamlined to few results.

Another way you can find your husband is by using a reverse image search on Google. Visit Google images, you will see a camera icon; just click on it to get started.

If your husband has current profile pictures, use them as a reference, and run a search. It will bring up any websites or social media accounts that the image is on and maybe you will get a match.

3. Monitor your partner’s email address

Do you have access to your husband’s email address? There's a probability he might not use that email since it's quite easy to create one. But don't take chances, check his trash and spam folders - you may find something you need.

Additionally, check his Google accounts to see if he has more than one email. If so, enter them into the "forgotten password" feature, of popular websites, or a dating site or dating app you think he might use. It may not give you complete facts about his activity on the dating apps, but you'll know whether he has used the site before if he has dating profiles.

Also, there's another innovation of Google you can use, that is, Google alert. It helps you monitor the internet for any information related to the person's email address, or a combination or other search terms.

All you have to do is to input his email addresses, or with a combination of other search phrases, and set the amount of time you want the message to be coming in, then wait for the feature to do its work.

Finally, you can use his email to find him on Facebook. Log in to a Facebook account, then copy the email address and paste on the Facebook search field at the top of the page. Once done, simply click ‘search’. Once searched, you will be offered different results, then click on "people" to filter out everything except their user profiles. Afterward, you can check for the one that matches the email, then go for it.

4. Monitor your partner remotely

Before now, this wouldn't have been achievable, or you would have to pay a large sum of money for this service. But, nowadays, some sites will offer these services for free, or sometimes you'll pay a little amount for it. But you have to be careful before you install malware.

Instead of trying to go through the computer or call log of your partner all the time to find his history, you can do that remotely. You can check up apps or sites like XNspy, MobiStealth, iKeyMonitor, etc. The only problem you'll have to face is installing the app on his phone then the rest will be history. 

However, although it's a free app, you'll have to pay to upgrade to the premium version before you can access the complete functions. After you have installed the app on your husband’s phone, you'll wait for 48 hours for the app to transfer its data from his phone to its website.

Finally, you'll then log in to the website to have full access to his internet history. Afterward, you will then be provided with the links to the website he visited, also the date stamps for each Url.

On top of this method, you can also use sites or apps that can monitor his GPS location and their historical log; this way, you'll know when your husband is telling the truth about his whereabouts, and the exact time.

5. Register on dating sites too

If you have an idea of the dating sites or dating apps your husband loved visiting when you were dating, then it's high time you should find out things from the inside. First, create a fake profile around his vicinity, then use any picture of a beautiful lady as your display picture, and try hitting from there.

I believe by now you must have known your husband’s weakness in women, so write a short flirty profile, that suits this fantasy woman and wait for him to bite. Also, you can use his physical features and location and find your husband. You never know, you just might come across his profile. 

Similarly, you can try adjusting your profile to align with that of your husband, so the dating site or app can easily match you both. It works very well on dating sites or dating apps like Tinder that allows for a match based on location and similar likings.

If you’ve created your profile, you’ve to be careful because if the friends of your partner find you, you’ll have a difficult time trying to explain yourself out of this one. However, If you've gotten to this point, you need to do some thinking; what will be your response if your husband catches you? I hope you know how you’ll go through this.

6. Search with your partner’s phone number

Many dating sites require a phone number during the signup stage; so, with this in mind, he may likely have used his phone number to register. More so, since you have access to your husband’s email, try logging into the dating site with his phone number then click on "forget password". You will receive a mail with the link to reset the password. Don't forget to delete it afterwards.

You can also try this one out. Search on Facebook with your partner’s phone number. It will be easier than using his name and you will probably get better results with a phone number than a name. However, your search is only limited to Facebook, and that's the sad truth.

If your partner is already cheating actively, then he will likely move on to a messaging app. Your best bet is to check his Facebook Messenger and WhatsApp messages. Also, check for deleted or blocked users - he might be careful to remove them.

Additionally, some spy sites, like Spyfor.me, will uncover your husband’s media data, online activities, phone logs, photos and more with just inputting his phone number. This way, you can secretly monitor, record, and track a series of phone calls made by your partner, if the app is installed on the target phone.

7. Use your partner’s IP address

Apart from spying on him remotely, you can find what site your husband visits (without snooping around his phone or trolling him on dating sites), by turning on the login of your home cable modem or wireless router. The login will show the internet protocol address of the modem or router. Then copy it and paste it on your browser, and it will resolve to the website he's been on. It will look this way: "123.123.123.123".

More so, even if your husband browsing with his phone, it will still work, since a lot of people use their wireless connection to browse with their smartphone while at home. But if the IP doesn't resolve, the reason will be that there is more than one website in that address. However, a popular dating site will have its address.

Additionally, mobile phones use IP addresses anytime you are involved in a conversation with someone through a messaging or dating app like WhatsApp. In fact, sites like Grabify.link and iplogger.org can be used to create trackable links, so you can send a message to him with these links; another method of grabbing his IP address.

8. Check your partner’s bank statement

Here, you're watching out for eerie transactions from your partner’s social platform accounts. It's a quiet and silent way to find out what your partner is up to without looking shady or suspicious.

No doubt, a lot of dating sites require money to get in, and since you have access to his bank statement, you can scan through his bank card history to check if there's any record of him subscribing for one.

So there's a possibility that if your partner is using these sites and has dating profiles, you might catch up with him because it's not something that he can easily erase, and he won't have any reason to suspect you. Also, he may likely use other bank documents for these transactions that you’re not aware of; certainly, nowadays you can buy a fake credit card online, or with cryptocurrency. 

All in all, make sure you check well for this information since this is the less risky approach that you would've taken.

9. Hire a spy

Despite taking the above actions, if you are still suspicious about what your partner is up to, a spy should clear all that. But, understand that you're opening up your marriage to a third party and that might not end well.

I will suggest you don't use this measure unless you have plans of divorcing him. Obviously, I can't stop you, because it's your choice to make. However, if you're going for any spy, opt for someone who does the job professionally.

Professional investigators are not going to work with emotions, so they may not likely make mistakes. Also, they will be fast in gathering hard evidence, which would have proved difficult if you were the one handling it. So, hire the service of a professional to save you from stress, and frustration that comes with finding out what your partner is up to.

Note; going for this is a two-way situation. It's either you end up spending money fruitlessly If it's proved that your suspicions were baseless. 

10. Talk to him

I will advise you to talk to your partner. If you have a reason to believe that your spouse is on a dating site, the first thing you should do is to relate with him your fears and concerns, before progressing to do anything.

No relationship can run without good communication. Until you and your husband discuss this over, you'll still be having doubt. Moreover, you can do all the snooping on his gadgets and private investigations, it won't ease the pains and distrusts you'll face.

Okay let's say you find nothing, will you accept husband is not cheating, or will you think instead, you didn't look hard enough? If you strongly believe your husband is using secret emails or fake names to go on dating sites, what will be your plan, If it's true? Will you file for divorce or you'll pray he changes?

Don't drive yourself crazy. Whether you snoop around, or you don't bother the result is still the same. Moreover, you should not be in a relationship that there's no trust. I will advise you to seek therapy, and talk to one that will be neutral and help you see through what happened.

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To Conclude

These tips may sound technical and tedious, but If your gut tells you there's something wrong, I believe these guides will be helpful to you. Moreover, If it's doesn't worth the stress, don't push for it.

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