There are so many opportunities to find romance in this new world of online dating sites. In the search for your perfect match, you're not only able to key in the height, weight, age, race, religious preference and locale of a potential partner, but now you can also key in any specific kink that you may desire. New online fetish dating sites are popping up on a daily basis.

In my practice as a sex therapist and relationship coach, I often get questions with regard to fetishes. Some people are interested in finding a cure for their fetish, some are seeking to indulge in their fetish and others are interested in finding someone to share in their fetish.

A fetish is classified as a fixation on an object or specific situation that leads to sexual arousal. This also can encompass the obsession one feels towards physical body parts in a sexual sense.

Human sexuality is very complicated; coupled with society's views on sexuality, it can make a person feel shame or the need to hide their sexual preference, fetish and kinky ideas of what turns them on. Many times people will marry or stay in long-term relationships but not be satisfied with their sex life or partner.

They may hide their passion for high heels and stockings, their obsession with feet and toes, large breasts or even the desire to be a cuckold. Many of these people will be unfulfilled sexually and seek it out elsewhere. It's a shame because sharing and enjoying a fetish with a partner can have a very positive effect on the romance and sex play in a relationship. 

Online dating gives a person the ability to shop for a partner made to meet their specific needs, wants, desires and fetishes. In this day and age of internet online dating, it doesn't matter if you are sporting spiked heels and fishnets, in your diaper and collar or even wrapped in rubber needing proper punishment. There's a site for you.

Just look it up, log in and you can be enjoying long walks on the beach with your new partner, hand in hand... or hand-holding leash. For your pleasure and amusement, here are a few fetish dating sites.

1. BDSM.com

Bondage, handcuffs, sadism/masochism, anal, humiliation — you name it, this site has it. BDSM offers a “safe” community, as it can be embarrassing or hard to talk about this fetish with just anyone. It provides a great outlet and allows a place to meet and chat with people who share your interest in S&M. Not to mention it's a stellar place to buy toys and things attributed to the fetish.

2. CougarLife.com

If you’re a younger man seeking an older woman, or an older woman seeking a younger man, this site is for you. It allows you to meet and mingle and fulfill your MILF fetish. This website is still up and coming so the clientele is limited but worth looking into nonetheless.

3. LadyBoyKisses.com

This site can be used for international and national services. Men or women who have a fetish for males who dress as females. Seventy-four percent of the website’s users are males, while the other 26 percent of users are females. People flock to the website in search of love, marriage, sex, and friendship. If you love yourself a ladyboy, then this website is for you.

4. DailyDiapers.com

DailyDiapers’ target audience is adults who enjoy wearing diapers, plastic pants, rubber diaper covers, or other baby type clothes. The fetish itself is primarily known as Adult Baby/Diaper Lovers (or AB/DL for short). This fetish is known to be a fairly difficult one to admit among the AB/DL community, so many take comfort in the 30,000+ other forum members.

5. HeelsDating.com

This site is for any male who loves a good foot fetish and any female who wants to get her feet worshiped. Basically, this site opens men up to a variety of women who love to wear heels and show off their feet in order to please men.

6. StrapOnDating.com

The whole purpose of this fetish dating site basically says it right in the name. This site is a community for those who prefer women that can still satisfy their needs with a penis... just a fake one. Whether you’re a single man or woman seeking another single, or a couple seeking another couple, this could be the place for you.

7. FindSpankingPartners.com

This site takes BDSM to the next level. It focuses in on the spanking part of S&M. The thing about finding people who are serious about making spanking a real part of their sex lives is that it’s actually really hard. A lot of people end up being fakes or not as into it as they made it seem. But this site provides a safe and accepting community of people who are committed to that lifestyle.

8. LocalCuckold.com

Cuckold dating is one of the most popular things to do among swinging couples. This provides a way for men and women in a committed relationship to pleasure themselves by watching their significant other having sex with another person. If you’re a swinger or a single man or woman looking to get involved with swingers, this might just be the place for you.

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The dating app Fantasy matches potential partners not by their proximity to one another, political leanings, hobbies or inclination to start a family. It pairs people off based on what they like to do in bed.

This explicitly sex positive approach means taking detailed information about your kinks and fantasies, and linking you to like-minded users who enjoy similar things in the bedroom, whether they’re to do with domination, submission, bondage, fetishes or group sex.

Fantasy describes itself as a ‘safe space to date and communicate, where you can explicitly speak about your fantasies and passions without fear of judgment’, which might appeal to people who feel that they want a dating app more explicitly kinky than Tinder or Bumble, but less daunting for newbies than the Fetlife communities.

The app prides itself on being open-minded and experimental, and a place where users can explore their turn ons with others who share similar predilections.

When signing up, you’ll be expected to offer up details about acts and scenarios that get you hot under the collar that are viewable by potential matches, but you can also list ‘secret’ kinks that are kept hidden until you match with someone. The ‘Stories’ function allows users to share more info about their preferences.

Fantasy creators stress the importance of mutual consent, vital for the health and safety of anyone engaging in play.

The app caters for people looking for both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships.

According to The Next Web, 40% of Fantasy users are in a relationship, meaning that polyamourous couples, swingers and couples who are curious about introducing a new play partner into the bedroom are flocking to the app.

App creator Andriy Yaroshenko says: ‘Fantasy users are united by four key attributes: positive attitudes towards sex and sexual fantasies, interest in developing their sexuality, creativity with regards to experimenting, and a healthy interest in obtaining new knowledge.’

Similarly to Tinder, the app requires a connection to your Facebook profile but assures users that info shared on their Fantasy account won’t be visible to Facebook friends. Definitely useful if you’re not keen for your auntie and your pals from primary school to know that you’re into choking or watersports.

When quizzed about the security of the app, Yaroshenko said: ‘We use various safeguards to protect the personal information submitted to us.

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‘However, no method of transmission over the Internet or via mobile device, or method of electronic storage, is 100% secure. While we strive to protect personal information, we cannot guarantee its absolute security. No one, not even Facebook or Tinder can guarantee this.’

The app requires an entry code or fingerprint ID to open, but Yaroshenko is right in asserting that you can never be completely sure that your data is inviolable.

It’s the risk we all take online, particularly with very personal information.

Yaroshenko’s straight talk regarding online privacy is refreshing, as is his dating app’s focus on sexual freedom, personal exploration and consent.

Fantasy is available to download now.

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KinkD is a clean and private kink dating app for kinky singles who are interested in BDSM & fetish dating. Here you can date and chat with kinksters who share your fet (an abbreviation for fetish) lifestyle in your local area!

Are you looking for dating sites or apps for an alternative lifestyle? Now, you have come to the right community! As a kinky friend finder app, our goal is to make fet lover's life easier. Whether you are seeking friendship or romance, KinkD can help you find local people who share your fetishes and kinks, such as bondage and DDLG. We are an umbrella covering the lifestyle that you can't get from the vanilla relationship. Sometimes, females could be dominant and males could be submissive in a relationship.

KinkD provides you with many powerful features to help you meet kinky women and men.

- Meet people worldwide and locally

Successful relationships hinge on whether you can find tender partners. With our search function, you can find fetish, bondage, and BDSM friends in your local area and worldwide. Our users are not only from the United States, Canada, and the UK but also from countries like Australia, Brazil, and Germany. No matter where you are, you can find the right person to help you whip up enthusiasm for love and romance.

- Diversified users

KinkD is a diversified community. Whether you are black, Asian, or Latino, you will feel welcomed here. If you are looking for dom and sub relationships, you can find people based on roles like master and switch.

As an LGBT-friendly app, we welcome single women and men of all genders and sexual orientations including lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender.

- Private chat

Luckily, you can use many free basic features on our app. You can start a private chat with a user for free per day. Also, it's free to chat with your matches.

You must act in obedience to the rules below. Any violation may lead to serious punishments.

1, Only legal fetishes are allowed on our app.
2, You must be at least 18 years old to use our app.
3, It's not allowed to post sexual content or profanity, including pornography and nudity.

Is your fetish or kink not being properly tended to? Perhaps the people you’re dating are missing that “sexuelle je ne sais quois”. Well, in this age of technology you need look no further than the screen of your phone to meet your perfect masochistic match. With this roundup of the best fetish dating sites and kinky dating apps, you may just find your perfect provocative partner in crime…

As society deems kinks and fetishes abnormal and deviant, these online spaces are essential for finding open-minded and like-minded people, to share your interest in an alternative lifestyle, say, feet, BDSM, or even cuddling! Yes, vanilla relationships and sex is considered a kink too! Just pop in your preferences and start swiping away.

So, don’t worry if you are new to the scene – maybe you didn’t even know there was a scene – these are safely regulated and consensual platforms. Just a little kink-curious? Try dip your toe into the fountain of the fetish dating world, open to experts and novices alike.

Fetish.com: Kink-Positive BDSM Community for Fetish Dating 

Fetish.com is a friendly fetish dating website that bridges the gap between the online social networking kink community and online kink dating. Here you can unleash your inner hedonist without stepping too far outside of your comfort zone. There is something here for everyone – including a forum, magazine, and local kinky events.

Perks: Get the best of both worlds with a “Quick Kink” swipe feature, as well as the freedom to roam other naughty members. This fetish dating website invites the kink-curious and fetish lovers to mingle and meet online or at your local munches (a casual social gathering for those involved or interested in BDSM). 

Limits: As with most dating sites you are limited in terms of chat without a membership however, the free version is great to dip your toe in the world of kink. 

Cost: Test the site out for free first, but for the full community experience you might want to indulge. Premium comes to €35.90 and VIP €59.90 for a 6-month membership!

Just a Tip: Take part in the fetish outfit challenges…you may receive more than you bargained for. With VIP you can beam yourself to the top of other people’s searches too!

Fantasy: Swingers, Poly, Open Minded and Monogamish Sex-Positive Dating By Fantasies 

While this app is maybe less on the kink end of the spectrum, Fantasy’s sex-positive angle focusing on fulfilling your wide range of fantasies provides a breath of fresh air. Mostly drawing in couples looking for a third member and polyamorous people. The unique selling point is that instead of the standard swipe and move on, you can swipe back and forth – just in case you missed that special someone.

Perks: This app is much more user-friendly than most of the others and you are warmly welcomed with a message from Andrew the founder. It’s aesthetically brighter, less BDSM inclined – but you can totally pop those into either you public or private fantasies section too!

One great perk is your private fantasies only unlock once you’ve matched – keeping members on their toes at all times.

Limits: Unfortunately you cannot filter by location so while you can see people around the world it is new to the UK, so there aren’t many local users if you are based here. Seem’s pretty great for US folks though.

Cost: Free

Just a Tip: On the “Stories” feature you can send out an announcement to meet kinky people in your local area!

Whiplr: A Messenger With Kinks

Joining the Whiplr community of around 800,000 will have you introduced to a whole kettle of kinksters, from beginners to pros. They claim everyone is welcome and advocated as “a messenger without borders.”

Perks: So, if you are bored of the textual conversations, maybe your more visually or aurally inclined, Whiplr is the rare dating app that allows you to video message and send sound bites to other naughty messengers.

Make sure you lay the groundwork with a fun icebreaker first. You can choose from an option of animated gifs to set the scene including a feather, a blindfold, or drip hot wax… This may help to get you both in the mood for some fun.

Limits: Like a few of the other kink dating apps, you can message whoever even without matching. While if you are looking for some online playmates, this can also lead to an inbox full of mostly unsolicited attention. So, for actual kink dating, this app falls short.

Cost: Free to download, but Premium price for more advanced features stands at $19.99 a month.

Just a Tip: There are strong guidelines to avoid unsolicited pics and the reports are taken seriously. However if you do regret sending something, unlike with Fetlife, you may “un-send” a message or image from both sides of the conversation.

Fet App: Lifestyle BDSM Community 

With a dark red and black theme, Fet App appears to be designed for the kinksters who know exactly what they want. You can curate an in-depth profile, what your “role” is, and what you’re looking for. This app does have a swipe feature and there are a few filter functions that work well to show you either “last online”, “nearby” and “newest” – helping to keep your feed fresh!

Perks: The unique feed where you write “what’s on your kinky mind” – similar to a Facebook status means other kinksters can find you and get in touch. The group chat feature also allows you to find kinky people based on location, fetish, LGBTQ+, and even vanilla.

Pitfalls: Unfortunately this app can be quite difficult to navigate and there is a limit to joining multiple group chats. Even if you filter your swipe feed to “nearby” you may receive messages from people all over the world and though they have a no scamming policy, their verification process can include scammers.

Cost: Free

Just a Tip: Join a group that you’re interested in to meet kinky people.

Fetlife.com: the Social Network for the BDSM, Fetish & Kinky Community

This red and black themed dating website is considered the Facebook for the fetish community. Fetlife.com is mostly a social networking platform where you can mingle with over 8 million other kinksters. This dark site has been the cornerstone of the internet for “kinksters like you and me” for 10 years. Though it’s not technically emphasised as a dating site, you can explore the site’s (definitely NSFW) feeds, groups, events and fetishes to find kinky people.

Perks: Every single kinkster will be on here, just dive into one of the 100,000 groups. Great for finding out about local kinky events.

Limits: There is no photo verification which leaves the site prone to abusers and predators, but then you also can’t search kinksters based on their age, sex or location. As it is quite difficult to navigate and not visually pleasing – very dark alley – keeps sex on the taboo end of the scale. Be warned, once you comment on someone’s feed it can never be removed.

Cost: Free

Just a Tip: Find upcoming events, especially the local munches (kinky meetups that are fully clothed) that take place all over the world and meet kinky people in your area in a safe environment.

Kinkoo: Kinky, Fet BDSM Dating 

Kinkoo has a swipe function like Tinder for you to scan other kinksters to your heart’s content. After you undergo a profile verification (to weed out any fake accounts) you can enter how “active you are” in the kink scene and your level of experience. This helps to let others to either match or mentor you as you grow in the community.

Bonus: Though we only gave this kinky dating app a ⅖ star rating, there are a few perks that may suit you with this app. When you sign up you get a number of coins to buy roses for others these you can give to other members you may like to get freaky with. Run out of roses? You can buy more coins.

Limits: Unlike Tinder where only your matches can communicate with you, unfortunately, there is no filter on this app. Therefore anyone who finds your account can message you.

Cost: Free to chat. Pay up to £199.99 for 5000 coins which can buy you 10,000 roses (because maybe you have dendrophilia – a fetish for plants?)

Just a Tip: Turn off your notifications unless you want to be bombarded.

KinkD: Fetish BDSM Dating & Kinky Fet Lifestyle 

Relaunched in August 2018, KinkD hosts more than 500k members, apparently removed it’s swiping function! Which may be to the dismay of some, but the move was to provide a more active (less-mindless) experience. Instead there are now “Monthly KinkD stars, which means the most liked are the most found and contacted. Basically a popularity competition.

Perks: Even more strict that Kinkoo, KinkD has a photo ID verification to keep it catfish free. You may also have a private album for interested playmates to request to view.

Limits: The layout is pretty unappealing (though it’s much more “safe for work” than many others). Not a proper filter function which means you are likely to receive messages from people all over the world.

Cost: Free to download, or £50.99 for 6 months. Subscription benefits include sending unlimited messages, setting advanced preferences (we guess that’s where the filtering will come to hand), getting access to your followers list and to see who viewed you.

Just a Tip: Join the KinkD photo contest. The top 3 will get 1-month free premium membership.

It’s safe to say we’ve never had it so good when it comes to meeting like-minded individuals, so take your pick. Will you go for the friendly fun Fetish.com or maybe a take a peek on Fantasy for some polyamorous playmates.

The online world of kink is your oyster (just make sure they’re into sploshing* with shellfish too).

*Sploshing: food fetish

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  1. KinkD

  The KinkD social networking is a place to meet couples, single women and single men of all sexual preferences who can be black, white, Asian, Latino, gay, lesbians, bisexual, transgender, interested in fetish dating. When KinkD App started in 2006, it didn’t receive a traditional welcome, as skepticism hovered around the app’s future. Today, however, Kink has become quite the force with regards to fetish online dating. Kinkd which happens to be one of the best BDSM dating apps right now has an appearance and feel like Tinder which is suitable for kink and fetish alternative lifestyles. In my opinion, kinkD is quite an interesting development among kinky dating apps which could see mainstream acceptance of people who possess fringe fetish lifestyles as well as indulge those who had no idea of an inner longing for such fantasies. In my eyes, KinkD is a world where everyone regardless of wants is welcome.

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  2. FetL

  FetL is a prominent app within BDSM spheres and rightly so, thanks to a completely free registration process and an abundance of participants, you can almost always get a sneak peek into the kinky life using this app. I was impressed by it’s perceptional GUI, responsive app design and beautiful color themes.

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  3. Whiplr

  If you take away the battery sapping power of the app, the sometimes-unresponsive links and maybe the price for elite services, I feel this could be the best dating site yet, and I mean that not only among fetish dating sites. The content, the layout and even the colors were all very well thought out. All am saying is Whiplr could do with more developers as it is obvious they are over working the existing ones and check to see the results.

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  4. Knki

  KNKI is a fast app. Despite the number of images that load up on the home screen, the app manages to maintain an impressive speed even with fluctuating Internet speeds. It would have been quite a mess to have to wait for pictures to load, but this is obviously not the case here. As you might have already noted, I do not like that shade of purple, but that is my own opinion. All in all, the app makes up for its scarcely populated user database with those pictures I talked about.

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  5. Vanilla Umbrella

  VANILLA UMBRELLA in terms of quality is still lacking, but we can overlook this, as not everyone is into kinky dating and even those into it, are sparsely located, thanks to cultural differences, and development. Vanilla app for me is an excellent app in terms of privacy and security, given the “pin” feature which locks you out once your screen times out. It is one of those little features that you have to try to understand just how handy it can be. After coming across these features, I wished tinder had this feature when my ex took hold of my phone while I went to take a leak, a story for yet another day. Finally, on the issue of cost, it is safe to say that Vanilla Umbrella app is arguably one of the most expensive apps for kinks out there. It, therefore leaves much to be desired to quite a large extent.

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  6. Recon

  Recon is owned by the company T101 and the app was launched early in 2009. Apart from the feeling of signing your own adoption papers, Recon is a force to be reckoned within the BSDM community. It’s a shame that it is strictly for men. The general layout and build of the app are way above average and to top it all, the quality of content is very ever-present in Recon. Other positives include very flexible premium payment plans fitting to many users. There will obviously be negatives though one of which is, the effect the app has on your battery when the GPS is left to run in the background. Recon has made quite an app here. And it’s only a matter of time before the ladies come asking for their own pound of flesh.

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  7. Kinkstr

  Kinkstr is owned by North Oliver LLC and was started in 2016. Apart from the selected colour scheme, Kinkstr seems like an app to be reckoned with in the near future. Despite being a fairly new kid on the block, it has managed to amass cult like users and nothing speaks volumes of a potentially successful app than this. The number of users is currently quite frail especially when consideration is put on the current unavailability of an android app. All in all, Kinkstr have made a good app, we just have to wait and see if the kinky populace thinks so too.

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  8. Feeld

  Feeld is a fully remote, design-led company founded in London in 2014. Feeld takes yet another approach to solving the issue of fake accounts and bots, but leaves a gaping hole in the area of security. The app itself is a wonderful app to say the least, and it also possesses quality content. The little shenanigans with wallpapers and audio files also endear the app to the fetish faithful. An excellent app, but what happens if someone has my unlocked phone?

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  9. SDC

  SDC was started as early as 1999. SDC is an app to have if you need to get laid soon without all the gibberish we call “creating a connection”. It is almost an automated process. It is not exactly suited for folks who want to meet “the one who makes the heart beat” online..lol.. I also wouldn’t rule that out but I feel it is highly unlikely given the atmosphere on the app. While the app does an incredible job on the site design and customer service, it falters to an extent in quantity of quality even though that is not supposed to be a criterion. Everyone at one point in their lives wanted to live on an Island with 300 hotties from Barbados or 200 Anthony Joshua’s. (Whichever makes you tick). So, you see quantity of quality is the Achilles heel of SDC.

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  10. Swinger Safari

  Swinger Safari is a premier GPS enabled kinky swinger app and it was started in 2014. Swinger Safari is a wonderful app if we eliminate the frequent app crashes. It’s no wonder why it has won so many accolades and consecutively too in the annual Lifestyle awards. Another point noteworthy is the pricing which seems too good to be true, given the features and quality of kinks available on the app. Did I forget to mention why this app maybe one of my personal favorites? The privacy! With Swinger Safari, I can have a fetish life at an end of the pole and have my regular life on my social media platforms thanks to the developers at SS who assured the project team that this was a good move. It indeed is. Fix the failing app though!!

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