Dating on Tinder can be a soul crushing experience, particularly when you’re a guy with the odds stacked against you.

A recent study by Scandinavian app developers Swipestats, which allows users to compare data, found that men swipe right on 53% of profiles they’re shown while women do the same for only 5% of their options.

But, New York photographer Charlie Grosso says, you can’t underestimate the power of a great Tinder profile pic in helping you land “the one.” Since 2015, Grosso has specialized in taking portraits for clients to use exclusively on Tinder. She cherry-picks the most flattering examples of her work before the client uploads a maximum of nine images to the app.

Grosso told The Post about her impressive success rates and the marriages she’s helped spawn. “The majority of my clients are genuine in wanting meaningful connections,” she said. “But [before booking a session] they are totally lost as to how.”

Now Grosso, who charges $1500 a session, is sharing her top posing tips with users of Twitter and other dating sites. Follow her practical advice and you’ll quickly produce a portfolio of professional grade pics. Here, she reveals her dos and don’ts for securing dates with the right photos on Tinder.

You don’t have a beak

Don’t!: It’s a resounding no to the ubiquitous “duck face” expression. “The pouty, come-hither look usually suggests one thing,” said Grosso. Same with too much flesh on show. The photographer added: “Just like fishing, you bait the hook with whatever you’re trying to catch. Ultra sexy, minimally-clad images of daters will attract a particular type of person. And it’s fine if that’s who you want.”

Do!: You’re better off trading that pout for a happy, more approachable look that is built around a dazzling smile. “I tell my clients: ‘Just be you,’” said Grosso, stressing that a relaxed, relatable vibe beats fakey fakey every time.

Mirror madness

Don’t!: Tempted to snap a mirror selfie with or without a crop top? Think again, warned Grosso. “It’s lazy, shallow and vain,” she said. “People make terrible mistakes like blocking out their face with their phone when it takes seconds to set your device on a timer.”

Do!: Sophisticated, figure-skimming clothes like our model’s stylish dress “elevate” the overall impression. Meanwhile the framing of the image is key. “Photos taken from the waist up can be the most flattering,” Grosso said, noting that some headshots on Tinder are just that. Too many people cut themselves off at the chin and produce a scary floating face with no neck.

Influencer idiocy

Don’t!: Focusing on the middle distance equates our depressed-looking model with a wannabe influencer in need of some sponsors. “She’s channeling a lot of the unnatural, unsmiling poses you see on Instagram,” Grosso noted. “I can’t imagine anyone wanting to talk to her with that resting bitch face.”

Do!: Leaning over the top of a chair or couch adds form and structure to a photo. A pose of a person just standing there can look awkward, but using furniture as a prop comes across as genuine and authentic. “It’s also great to get them to laugh,” said Grosso, who suggests telling the subject a corny joke. “In this picture, the model presents herself as really good fun.”

Why so serious?

Don’t!: This image channels the laughable “try hard” look derided by anyone with a modicum of taste. “It appears as if she [the model] is lying in bed,” said Grasso. “The reclining pose isn’t flattering and the poor bedroom lighting doesn’t help at all.”

Do!: Grosso maintains that sitting poses are sensible options for dilettantes because they’re “easier” to pull off and “less complex.” She said: “Some people stand awkwardly and don’t know what to do with their hands.” Meanwhile the tactic of casting your eyes slightly away from the camera creates an “interesting dynamic.” It looks much better than the deer-caught-in-headlights shot when you face the lens head on.

Save it for the bar, bro

Don’t! Even the most desperate dater would swipe left on a guy in a baggy football shirt giving a cheesy thumbs up. “It’s so casual,” said Grosso. “Men think it’s both dumb and funny. But I’m thinking: ‘Why are you making this choice for your on-line profile picture?’” She said the cringe-worthy pose was likely recommended by a clueless drinking buddy.

Without direction from an experienced photographer, such daters often resort to a clichéd shot like Ben Stiller’s hilarious “Blue Steel” catwalk expression. “Their confusion is deepened by all the pick-up artist types of advice [featured] online written by men for men,” added Grosso. The choice of background is equally perplexing. “The messaging is unclear,” she added. “The flower wall looks staged — like he’s trying too hard.”

Do!: According to Grosso, the model’s spruced-up collared shirt paired with fitted jeans suggests a readiness “for a casual date or Sunday brunch.” “He looks less like a college kid,” the photographer said. Not only that, he has a welcoming smile. “What makes a man attractive is the impression he’s a nice guy and a person you’re able to trust,” Grosso said. “There are no red flags here.”

You’re not one of the Blues Brothers

Don’t! Posing indoors — even outdoors — with sunglasses covering your eyes is a rookie Tinder mistake. The sinister shades are associated with seedy characters who have something to hide. She concluded: “The model is not smiling and way too cool for school.” She noted the way his arms crossed his upper body — an unappealing sign of a defensive attitude which “closes him off” from flirty interactions.

Do!: Grosso said the model’s megawatt smile “makes all the difference in the world” to this headshot. His wide grin exudes warmth and kindness. According to the expert, the tilt to his head suggests an engaged personality. “It says to your date: ‘I’m listening to you,'” she said. Grosso decided the trendy brick wall proved the perfect backdrop since it resembled the inside of an industrial warehouse.

Light blight

Don’t! Another crime that daters commit is to moodily pose with direct sunshine behind them. Experts with the right equipment can adjust the exposure, but most of us find it a challenge. “This window image fails because the model’s face is almost completely in shadow,” said Grosso. Instead of channeling the album cover of a gloomy indie band, she said the look is just weird. Grosso also criticized her subject’s hunched shoulders: “They can mean a lack of self-confidence and worth.”

Do! Perched on the edge of his seat, our model comes across as interested, involved and keen to begin an intelligent conversation. “It’s like he’s leaning in to hear every word of the person opposite,” said Grosso, adding, “There’s active body communication going on — a truly engaging trait.” As a bonus, the pose subtly shows off a pair of firm biceps. No matter how ripped you are, other parts of your body — think of a six pack triumphantly displayed on a bare midriff — should never be shoved in a person’s face. “We are going for a lighter touch,” the photographer said. “It’s much sexier to leave certain things to the imagination.”

Photos: Charlie Grosso; Stylist: Nicole Zane; Hair: Luca Blandi; Makeup: Markphong using Westmore Beauty/MP-IMC; Hair Assistant: Nikoletta Kola. Models: Omar and Courtney from Wilhelmina.

On female model: “Yoo” mini slip dress, $295 at SVNR shop; “Birdie” sandals, $335 at Nomasei; “Magic Within” necklace, $55 at Bryan Anthonys; Medium wave hoop earrings, $127 at Missoma.

On male model: “Avery” shirt, $195 at Rag & Bone; A.P.C “Petit New Standard” stretch jeans, $220 at East Dane; Ermenegildo Zegna XXX “Triple Stitch” sneakers, $750 at  Zegna; De Ville Trésor white gold watch with a leather strap, price upon request at Omega Watches; Gold chain necklace, models own. 

In theory, profile pictures should be simple: You pick a couple shots that show off your face, your hobbies, and—let’s be honest—your body.

Yet new research shows we have no idea what the hell we’re doing, especially when a stranger can pick a more flattering picture of ourselves than we can. And if you think that’s surprising, wait until you hear some new stats from a recent report from Hinge.

Researchers studied 1,000 user photos, assigning photo tags (35 in all) to each. They ran the gamut from guys taking selfies to women posing with their hair up. The researchers then ranked the tags to see which type of photos get liked more (and, therefore, who gets more matches) on the app.

Here’s what men should be doing, according to the most-liked pictures:

1. Smile without your teeth. You’re 43% more likely to receive a like. (We interpret this as “master the charming smirk.”)
2. Look straight ahead. Your odds of getting likes jump a whopping 102%. (No poetic stares into the mid-distance.)
3. Stand alone. Your photos get an 11% boost in likes. You also make it easier for her to discern who you actually are.
4. Choose a sports photo. Did you play soccer in college or just like pickup basketball on the weekends? If so, make it your profile pic. It’ll enhance your odds of nabbing a like by 45%. (Note: This is not the same thing as a gym selfie in the mirror.)
5. Opt for a candid shot. Of all the pics she scrolls through, about 80% will be posed. Candids are more refreshing, and increase your chances of getting a like by 15%.
6. Make it black and white. Filters can be tricky. But black and white is classic. Surprisingly enough, they’re also 106% more likely to receive a like.

 Here’s what men should not be doing:

1. Selfies. No one gets a thumbs-up for selfies. In general, selfies 40% less likely to get a like. And if you’re posing in front of a toilet in your bathroom? Your odds plummet by 90%. (Editor’s note: Why would you do that? You’re better than a toilet selfie.)
2. Ditch the beach photo session. Your six-pack might look killer, but men are 80% less likely to receive a like on their beach photo. Whether she thinks you’re vain or not, save it. Let the six-pack abs be a welcome surprise, y’know, later.

Tweak your profile. And when the likes start rolling in, use these real-woman-approved conversation starters.

Grosso agrees with including your activities in a profile, but says to make sure you don’t fall into Tinder tropes. “The men want to be seen as fun, fit, well-travelled, established, etc. That translates into pictures of them on the ski slopes, Machu Picchu, fishing, at weddings in a giant group shot, out with friends drinking,” she explains. “It’s so generic that it doesn’t stand out. After all, who doesn’t like good food and traveling to exotic locations?! None of these images offer an entry point for conversation.”

“A killer dating photo doesn’t just show people what you look like, it tells them what you’re made of,” agrees Nelson. “If you’re smart, you can use your photos to tell people more about who you are rather than writing it in the bio. No one reads bios, you know that.”

“No pics of them having just caught a fish,” adds Grosso. “No women I know would be turned on by the sight of a dead fish.”

3. Outfits and grooming are key

Keep shirtless pics to a minimum, says Grosso, if you feature any at all. “Don't post too many selfies,” adds Shields. “A couple are fine, but take it easy, otherwise you come across narcissistic.”

In terms of clothing and styling, Nelson recommends colour. “Red is the colour of love, passion, danger. Women are most definitely drawn to it.” She also adds if you don’t like wearing colour, find a backdrop that provides an injection of it. Also, no sunglasses – eyes are the window into the soul.

“Do wear new or dry-cleaned clothes, no faded polo shirts,” adds Shields. “Even a new white T-shirt looks nice.” Dress to impress and make sure your grooming is up to snuff too. “Do neaten up your beard or facial hair, or go clean-shaven,” says Shields. “It can't be somewhere in the middle.”

4. Backgrounds

“Messy backgrounds are distracting and unattractive. You’ll lose people’s attention superfast,” says Nelson. Instead, choose a colourful simple background or something that says something about you. “Its role is just to showcase you.” Grosso adds that you should “have a clean frame, no distractions and strange objects”.

5. Don’t use old photos, even if you look good in them

“Thinking about using that photo from five years ago when you had substantially more hair or were almost two stone lighter? Best to give that a swerve,” says Nelson. “No one wants to feel deceived by their date before they’ve even sat down and got a drink in their hand!”

6. Good quality pictures

In an unsurprising turn of events for a piece in which I spoke to professional photographers, there was a wide consensus that you should get some professional photos taken.

“Good visual content drives engagement, as any marketeer knows, and engagement with your profile is the primary goal when it comes to swiping,” says Nelson. “The more increased visits to your profile, the more dates you’ll get.”

7. Avoid shots with people of the opposite sex

“No photos with members of the opposite sex that [are] younger than their grandparents, even if it’s [your] twin,” says Grosso. “They’ve got three seconds and they shouldn’t be spending it on making disclosures of ‘This is not my girlfriend.’ The same with infants: you don’t need to spend valuable space on your profile, or in your conversation, assuring people you’re not a clandestine parent.

8. Confidence and security

For Grosso, your pictures should say to a potential partner that you will not play into their deepest concerns about men. “For women, that’s safety,” she argues, saying that men need to create profiles that show they are trustworthy. “How do you create trust? Eye contacts and smiles.”

Greetings, friends. Welcome to CNET's online dating advice column by me -- Erin Carson, staff reporter, resident young-enough-person, refrigerdating correspondent, curator of odd stuff on the internet, most likely to leave you on "read."

You might be wondering why you should pay any attention to what I have to say about online dating.

First off, I've been happily married for 10 years. Kidding! I'm out there just like everyone else, a machete in one hand, pocket knife between my teeth, hacking through the dating wilderness, wondering how this all happened, and why I didn't pack bug spray.

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I've also been covering dating apps for about three years, which means that if I've written about it, I've probably downloaded it. In that time I've talked to many of the folks behind the apps you use, and with experts who work with hopeful lovebirds every day.

Most of all, believe me when I tell you: I get that online dating is a little weird. However, I subscribe to the philosophy that tech is a tool, and if folks can have tacos delivered to their apartment, hitch a ride, and shout their desire to know the weather into the ether and get a response, they should be able to find someone to drag along to that random free arts event in the park.

So, if you've got questions about how to pick an app, craft a bio or how not to sink into an existential mire whilst on the apps, hit me up.

Q: What are the best types of profile pictures?

You. In the bathroom, flexing hard, about to take a selfie. Put your phone down.

If I've just destroyed your entire dating profile photo strategy, pull up a chair and we can chat.

Now, I will couch what I'm about to say with the fact that more than a few dating platforms out there have put out data in the past about what seems to work on profiles. You might be able to dig up platform-specific info on the ideal number of pictures you should have, or even the most successful facial expressions for men and women. One study found that guys come off as more attractive and trustworthy if they have a dog in their profile, which is great news if you're like me and like looking at pictures of dogs (and dreaming of stealing said dogs).

Dognapping aside, think of your photos as a whole. You've got maybe 4 or 5 pics to tell some kind of story about who you are and what your life is like.

Here's something that sounds obvious: Make sure people can see your face clearly in at least your main profile picture. THAT MEANS YOU IN THE SKI MASK. Are you robbing a bank?? What is happening??

Anyway. Throw in some lifestyle photos. Like to travel? Play soccer? Hike with friends? Great. (Side note: Make sure you're not projecting some type of unrealistic, showboat persona. Odds are you don't spend every weekend in a tux or evening gown. Give folks an idea of how you spend your time when you're not scaling a boulder shirtless.) Not only are you illustrating who you are, but you might be making it easier for someone to message you about how they, too, play Tibetan singing bowls in their free time.

When constructing a profile, it doesn't hurt to imagine how some random person out there will perceive it. If all they have to go on is one grainy picture of you, taken at 3 a.m. while lying down on your couch, using your laptop's built-in camera, well… the odds are not in your favor, pal.

You might not have perfect travel pictures of exotic destinations or delightful snapshots from Gatsby-esque soirees. That's OK. At the very least, put on a clean shirt, go outside and get a friend to take a decent picture of you.

And never forget: Car selfies are trash. 

Q: What are the best pickup lines for starting a conversation?

Let's get one thing out of the way: The best way to start a conversation is not "hey," or "hi" or any derivation thereof, unless you're actively trying to get ignored. In which case, by all means go for it. I can almost promise you'll end up in the hey stack of rejected matches.

In truth, "hey" might be a perfectly acceptable way to start a conversation with a friend or colleague. You start at "hey" and end up debriefing on Game of Thrones. But here's the thing -- you're not approaching someone you have a preexisting relationship with. You're talking to a stranger on the internet who, in all likelihood, is trying to place a bet on which strangers from the internet they should talk to while fighting off the creeping numbness that comes along with flipping through 3 bazillion dating profiles. At best, "hey" is uninteresting; at worst, it's rage-inducing.

"Hey" just isn't going to cut it, partly because, as is the case with your photos, your bio, and other profile elements, you're making a pitch about yourself to the person you're trying to talk to.

In sum, "hey" is the worst thing since stepping on a wet spot on your kitchen floor while wearing socks. Don't do it. Just. Don't Do. It.

So, what do you say?

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There's no science here, folks. But the opposite of a soul-suckingly generic greeting is actually taking the time to look at a person's profile. Try asking them a question about something they've mentioned. Do they like to cook? Ask them what they'd make based on what's in their kitchen right now. Into live music? Ask what bands are on their bucket list. Big Westworld fan? Ask them what the hell happened last season because I have no damn clue and would love to know. (Maybe not that last one, but you get the idea.)

You're just trying to break the ice and veer into a more natural chat about whatever is actually interesting to you both. The first contact is a small hurdle to clear to get you toward either figuring out if the other person has the personality of a wet mop or maybe you'd like to meet up in person.

Granted, you can scour the internet for cheeky opening questions like whether pineapple belongs on pizza (it does and I will fight you) or send along a GIF of a waving panda. Yes, you can do that. It might work. I would argue, though, that's a bit of an assembly line approach to trying to start a conversation.

Keep in mind that when it comes to online dating, it's easy to feel like you're on some kind of nightmarish, overcrowded merry-go-round. Just think— wouldn't it be nice to get a message from someone who seemed like they were specifically interested in you?

This is a recurring advice column focusing on online dating. If you've got a question about finding love via app, send it to erin.carson@cbsinteractive.com for consideration. 

The world has changed a lot recently, and we must adapt to keep up with these changes. Amid the pandemic, online dating has surged in popularity, and according to Business Insider, the number of dating app users increased by 20% in 2020. Whether we wish to admit it or not, the most important part of your dating profile is undoubtedly your photos. It's the primary way our brains form an opinion of someone. In fact, a survey in EliteSingles highlights the fact that 58% of British singles said they would not open a profile that did not include photos. With this in mind, Perfocal asked dating photographers to give us their tips on how to choose the best possible collection of pictures for your dating profile. So before choosing your Tinder dating photos, take note of the 5 must-have dating pics that will make your Tinder profile stand out.

Photo 1: A classic headshot. Put on a happy face and smile

The classic headshot is usually the first photo that people see in your tinder pictures. First impressions matter, so it's important to choose a photo that gives the best reflection of who you are. Firstly, this is a headshot, not a close-up, so try to frame the picture from the chest up. It also helps to remember it is not a passport photo, so try not to be too serious. A smile goes a long way to set someone at ease. The background should be blurred or work to frame you, and make sure it's not too busy or distracting. As with all photos, lighting is critical, so try to avoid strong overhead light that make your features appear harsh. Ideally, the main light source should be at eye level to accentuate your facial features and look professional. You want perfect balance of being lit from the front, but still getting some side-lighting to accentuate your features and not produce a flat-looking portrait.

Photo 2: A candid portrait, don't pose for it, live it

Candid photos are a great way to show your personality and impress people looking to match profile pictures with someone fun. A true candid shot is taken when you are unaware that you are being photographed. In saying that, most candid shots are faked, and the person in the photo just tries their best to appear natural. The best way to achieve this is to plan your shot well and position yourself in the optimal spot. Although not always practical, shoot from a low angle if possible to further add an impromptu feeling. It helps if you are in the middle of an activity or doing something that is making you smile or laugh. Try to relax and move freely, so you get the most natural-looking pose. Remember, you didn't know there was a camera there, and the photographer just snapped a photo of you while you were doing something interesting.

Photo 3: Shots that can express your hobbies

It is hard to learn a lot about a person from their Tinder profile photos, but take every opportunity you can to highlight your likes and hobbies in this shot. One of the best tinder tips for women is to include a photo of yourself in your natural habitat. If you like reading, then why not include a photo while doing precisely that. Or if you love playing sports, perhaps a sporty look will help you match profile pictures with someone else who likes the same sport. Most Tinder profile photos focus just on the person themselves, but every picture tells a story, so try to convey as much information as you can with this shot. If you want to get a message across about the kind of activities you like, what better way to do that than to include a photo of you actually doing it. Most tinder photos are repetitive, and we want to stand out from the crowd, so showing your hobbies or activities is a great way to match profile pictures with a like-minded person.

Photo 4: Full-body shot to compliment your profile pictures

To avoid any misunderstandings, it is always wise to include a full-body shot that shows your physique. These can be some of the hardest to get right in dating photography because now you need to find the right pose, the best lighting, the optimum angle, and of course, the right look. One of the best tinder tips for women is to take this shot outdoors about an hour before sunset. We want the main light source to be around eye-level, so this is the optimum time to achieve the shot with natural light. The same tip applies if you shoot indoors, set up the light source around eye-level, and use a wide aperture to blur the background. Shooting from the waist is a good idea so that the overall shot is balanced and you fill the frame with your full body. Make sure to get everything in the frame, and check that your background is not distracting or taking away from you.

Photo 5: The selfie. All dating profiles should include one

Yes we are a photography company and we can deliver professional dating profile photo shoots to you on-demand... but we are NOT saying no to selfies! While it is never a good idea to use a phone selfie as a professional portrait, it's a great shot to include in your Tinder photos.

The key here is to try not to hide the fact that you're taking a selfie but rather to embrace it. Selfies are fun, they're personal, and they tell the other person a little bit more about you and your personality. Unlike your other dating pics, this shot is all about the eyes. Try to angle your phone until it is pointing slightly up or down. We don't want a selfie that looks like a headshot, we want to look playful and free. The camera is literally an arm's length away from you, so bear in mind that perspective can be deceiving at this short distance. That's why angling the phone or tilting your head can lead to much more interesting shots.

Having said so, it's not a bad idea to take your selfies with an actual camera, instead of just your smart phone. Cameras have physically larger and better sensors that produces images in much higher quality that modern phones still can't compete with. You might even want someone else (like a friend or a photographer) to help you mimick a "selfie-like" professional portrait!

Big no-nos. The photos we would not recommend to use

No set of Tinder tips for women would be complete without pointing out the photos you should avoid using. Firstly, no matter what you think at the time, duckface photos are never an attractive look. Avoid looking the same in every photo, so maybe add sunglasses in one, but make sure to show your eyes in the others, after all, they are the window to the soul ;)

Most importantly, if there are other people in the shot, make sure it's obvious which one is you. Group shots are okay as a candid shot or one that expresses your interests, but remember that you're trying to promote yourself as much as possible, so you need to be the focus of the shot.

Ultimately, your selection of photos are how you wish to be represented and you're going to have better quality matches if you are in fact providing a truthful representation. You are not one-dimensional and neither should your photos be!

Hopefully, our tips help you achieve the perfect dating profile pictures. If you really want to get the perfect set of photos, considering booking a professional photographer to help you capture all your best angles and really get the most out of your pictures. Perfocal have deals from as little as £99, so you can focus on relaxing and looking good while your professional photographer captures you in the best light. You receive edited versions of your photos that are ready to be downloaded and shared on your profile page, all within 48 hours after shoot!

Don't have any shots ready for your dating profile? Try out a Perfocal photographer today! We'll help you get those matches :)

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Tired of feeling frustrated every time you check your online dating sites and apps?

If you’re not getting the results you want, there are usually two major reasons. Either your dating profile sucks, or your photos do.

In this article, you’re going to learn 13 online dating photo tips that will help you line up your most attractive photos for Tinder, Bumble, or any other dating app or site, so you can meet higher quality women than ever before.

Our dating experts spent thousands of hours testing and compiling the very best photo hacks to attract women. Access this actionable intel for free!

And if you're not that hot, don't worry – keep reading for how to be magnetic and irresistible to women, no matter what you look like. And since most schools don’t teach how to take a good Tinder photo, you'll find plenty of good ideas for guys datingprofile pictures you can use for inspiration.

Let’s get started!

#1 First Impressions Are More Than Skin Deep

Studies have shown that women take about 1/10th of a second to form an impression of someone in a photograph. If she has a bad impression of you from the start, she's not clicking on your profile or responding to your message.

Here’s where it gets challenging – she’s forming opinions on just about every aspect of what she sees, including your posture, facial expression, and the clothes you’re wearing.

The technical term for this is “thin slicing,” and everyone does it in just about any social situation.

To get on the good side of her first impression, your profile photos need to convey all the reasons you’re such a great catch. This is called “signalling,” and it can make or break your online dating photos.

Think of it this way – she’s going to imagine herself in the lifestyle the profile pic conveys. It’s why unique travel photos are so successful. You're visually communicating that you’re interesting, you'll take her to exotic places, and most importantly, that you have the financial means to do it.

Here’s a comparison so you can see how signalling works:

Which guy do you think she’d rather spend time with? (Spoiler alert: it’s not the couch napper.)

#2 Appeal To Her Natural Instincts

The secret lies in evolution – that's right, we're talking Darwin, survival of the fittest, alpha male theory. Biologically speaking, alpha males are desirable mates, so you want to subconsciously convey your alpha status in your photos.

Here's an example – let's say you play basketball. And action shots make awesome profile pictures for guys, by the way. In a single photograph you communicate that you're athletic and part of a social group, two highly desirable traits.

But it can't be just any basketball picture. The best dating profile photos feature you as the center of attention – you're making a slam dunk, catching the ball, or in control of it. What you AREN'T is the guy in the background, watching the action go down around you. Get the idea?

If you’re hiking with a small group of friends, you’d want to be the one leading the way. You're the captain of the ship, the one in the driver's seat, the guy making the toast… you get the idea.

#3 Your Friends Should Make You Look Good

This almost goes without saying, but make sure you’re the hottest one in the frame of any group photo you choose for an online dating profile. As Tinder’s sociologist Jessica Carbino put it, why risk disappointing her when she realizes you’re not the one she was hoping to meet?

In fact, researchers have proven that the “Ugly Friend Effect” not only exists, it works. When you’re in a picture with guys less attractive than you, you look even more attractive by comparison.

Dan Ariely, a researcher in behavioral economics, did a simple experiment to prove that giving someone a slightly worse option makes you appear more attractive. In his experiment, he showed women two pictures – one of “Tom”, the other of “Jerry” – and asked them which guy they considered more attractive.

When presented with only two options, Tom and Jerry were evenly matched in the looks department. But when Ariely provided an ugly version of Tom in the photo lineup, suddenly Tom was rated as more attractive. When the lineup included “ugly Jerry,” Jerry was the favored one.

The moral of the story? If you have a friend who looks similar to you but less attractive, take some photos next time you’re together with him. It’s important that you look great in the photo even with him cropped out of it, but with him in it, you’ll look even better. (Note: Don’t use this as the primary photo on your profile. You should always be the only person in your main pic.)

#4 The Group Shot Quandary

A lot of guys mistakenly think that including a group shot is mandatory, because it makes them look more social and outgoing.

While it’s true that a group photo does convey those traits, it only helps you if you look great in the photo AND you’re the most attractive one in it.

Most group photos fail on one (or both) of those fronts, and it ends up working against you in the long run because it actually lowers your perceived attractiveness.

It’s probably easier to use a photo of you in a social setting, like a cool cafe or outdoor park. As long as it’s not a selfie, it’s obvious you were there with at least one other person, right?

#5 How To Send Attractive Signals

Remember, this is all about letting her imagine a lifestyle.

For men in their 30s and above, consider using a “dress up” shot. Many women looking for a mature, established man want to know you can hang at a company event or cocktail party.

A picture of you dressed nicely at a rooftop bar, a restaurant on the beach, or a yacht could have the same effect.

But avoid the cliché pictures of you rocking a rented tux at a wedding. Anyone can look good once, right? You want to convey that you look this good all the time.

If you're lucky enough to be a guy in his early 20s, good news – you can skip the suit shot – it might actually hurt your chances by making you seem too serious or even uptight. But you can still convey success by choosing a picture of you at a nice club, restaurant, or other “luxurious” surroundings.

Don’t go overboard with the fancy photos though. You don’t want to look like you’re bragging, and survey data indicates that 81% of singles want to see casual photos showing your everyday life.

But that being said, make sure your everyday life intrigues her.

#6 Channel Your Inner Dos Equis Guy

Yup, you want to be interesting. Everyone has hobbies, so pictures of you doing something you enjoy are a great idea. Riding a motorcycle, playing hockey, going for a hike – this is the proverbial “action” shot.

But make sure the photo doesn't look faked. No matter how hot you are, if you're posing by your muscle car with an “I'm so awesome, check me out” smirk on your face, your inbox isn't going to get the action it deserves.

See the difference?

Your photos should showcase your alpha side – “manly” men build things. They go camping. They go hunting and fishing. They own the dance floor.

But when you're choosing a photo, keep a sharp eye on the surroundings.

If you enjoy cooking, that's an interesting thing to showcase – unless of course, the kitchen in the background is a disaster area. No one wants to be with a slob.

You also want to highlight multiple facets of your personality, so choose a range of photos. 3 to 6 is an ideal number. While you want to have a few photos to give her the sense you’re a real person, it’s really unlikely that you have 6+ pics you look equally attractive in.

#7 Consider Going Pro, Even On Apps Like Tinder

Pro photos can be a great investment. After all, a pro photographer with an expensive camera knows how to manipulate the lighting, help you pose in a natural way that doesn't look forced, and generally bring out your best qualities. Basically, a pro will make you look better than your buddy with an iPhone ever could.

But there’s a catch – you want pro photos that don't scream “I hired a photographer for this.” You want to look casual and natural, like a buddy snapped a photo while you were out having fun.

This means no studio shots with you posing in front of an obvious backdrop. Have the photographer take them in an interesting natural environment, preferably in a few different locations.

When you’re booking a pro photographer, make sure to find one that will allow you to change outfits each time you change locations. Remember, the trick is to make it look like your photos were taken while you were out and about, doing fun, interesting things that align with your interests and personality.

When you use more than one photo with the same background or article of clothing (i.e. button up shirt), it doesn’t take a genius to guess the photos were taken together. If your photos also look like they might have been professionally taken, women will suspect you probably hired a professional photographer for your dating profile. Not cool.

That’s why your photo lineup should not feature multiple photos where you’re sporting the same clothing or even in the same location.

To that same end, you should never use all pro shots. Ideally, you want a good mix of attractive candids with a few pro shots sprinkled throughout your lineup.

Don’t have any good candids? Offer the photographer a little extra to snap some additional photos with a cellphone (in yet another location and outfit, of course). Now you should have what you need.

#8 She Wants To See Everything (Well, Not That)

You'll definitely want to include at least one full body shot that shows you from head to toe. In fact, Zoosk discovered that using a full body shot increases messages received by 203%.

If you want to show off your abs, make sure the photo is taken in a natural setting like the beach, for example. And make sure it shows your face. Naked, faceless torso shots just look tacky.

That being said, feel free to look away from the camera. When you have a variety of poses in your lineup, it’s more visually interesting. The same is true of your expressions – you’ll want some photos with a warm smile, others with a more serious look.

For more tips on how to take Tinder photos (and every other kind, too!), check out the photo advice in our Ultimate Guide To Online Dating.

#9 Know When To Smile

One thing to keep in mind – a recent experiment by Photofeeler found that when you’re looking at the camera, you’re more attractive when you’re smiling. So a good rule of thumb to follow is this: If you’re making eye contact, smile. If you aren’t, smiling vs. not smiling doesn’t matter.

#10 Avoid These Common Pitfalls

You can have six incredible photos, and still sabotage your chances with one bad one. These photographic do's and don'ts will make sure you have a bullet proof photo lineup:

• Don't use a picture of yourself taken in front of a mirror (even if you keep your shirt on this time). Match.com recently surveyed its users, and found that 29% of women were turned off by a photo taken in front of a mirror with a smartphone.
• Think about what that type of photo communicates – you don't have any friends who can take a picture of you, and you're not willing to invest more than 15 seconds to make a good impression.
• The shirtless selfie – just don't. According to the same survey, 1 in 3 responding women said when it comes to dating photos, shirtless selfies were “downright offensive” and “an almost instant dealbreaker.”
• Don't hide your face in your photos. File this under obvious, but if you're going to wear sunglasses and a hat in every single picture, or show yourself from neck down, she's going to wonder if you’re wanted by the authorities, married, hideous, or what else you might be trying to cover up. In fact, 23% of single women say this is their biggest pet peeve when it comes to online dating photographs. Eye contact is essential, especially in your primary photo, as it can help spark a near-instant feeling of connection.
• Don’t use racy photographs. A full 75% of women say overtly sexual photographs are their biggest online dating foul. Keep it classy.
• Don’t use Snapchat filters, especially when it comes to selfies. Authenticity is important to the majority of online daters, and 1 in 3 singles have decided not to message someone on a dating app solely because of heavily filtered photos.
• A few light, natural-looking photo edits can make a big difference, with the key words being ‘natural' and ‘light'. Ideally, you don't want anyone to know your photo was edited at all. Statistics show 61% of online daters think the most attractive photos are natural and unenhanced.

#11 Achieve The Perfect Photo Lineup

Dating website photos should provide an overall look at your lifestyle, and reflect intriguing aspects of your personality.

You don’t want to have all headshots, because that’s boring – not to mention narcissistic. And using all travel or “action” shots will leave her wondering when you’ll have to time to go on a date with her.

Here are 6 types of photos that can work well:

1. Full length shot
2. Closeup (from your shoulders up)
3. Intriguing environment (travel shot, rooftop bar, museum, etc…)
4. A different intriguing environment
5. Activity – like a sport or hobby
6. Non-posed social/group shot

You don’t need all of these, just some of them.

Use this list as a guideline, and don’t worry if you don’t have all 6. You want to look great in all of your photos, so don’t choose a poor one just so you can check it off the list.

The most important thing for you to remember is you’re only as attractive as your worst photo. The photos you choose can make or break your dating profile – good ones equal dates, and bad ones could mean a lot of lonely Friday nights.

#12 Second Opinions Are Your New Best Friend

Once you have a selection of possible photos to use, you’ll need to choose the top 3 to 6 that get the best feedback from others and form the type of photo lineup described in this article.

How do you gather feedback from others? One way is to use one of the internet sites created just for this, like PhotoFeeler.

Or you could ask one of your hot females friends for her opinion. Even better – ask 3 to 5 females to rank them for you.

For the best results, channel your inner geek and assign each photo a point based on where your friends ranked it. So if you have 10 photos, the best photo would get 1 point, and the worst 10 points.

Do this for each friend’s ranking, then add up all the points for each picture. Use the photos that scored the lowest number of points.

Sounds like a complicated process, but choosing the best photos for online dating you can is worth the extra effort. 45% of online daters say the “Pictures” section of a profile is the most important part.

#13 Bring In The Big Guns

Photos are hands down the most important part of your dating profile. If you choose the wrong ones, you’re not going to get the results you want. Talk about frustrating!

Women are visual creatures – just like you. That means photos can make or break you on dating apps and sites. Based on OkCupid data published in Dataclysm, Christian Rudder estimated that photos drive 90% of the action.

And once you’ve got some action in your inbox, you’ve got to to keep that message exchange going until you lock in the date.

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Do not include photos of yourself...

1. Holding a fish.

2. Partying.

3. In front of the bathroom mirror.

4. At the gym.

5. With an ex.

6. With filters.

DO include pictures of yourself...

1. That are close-up and clear.

2. Smiling.

3. With pets.

4. Traveling.

5. Dressed up.

6. Doing something active.

7. That are candid.

Do not include photos of yourself...

1. Holding a fish.

2. Partying.

3. In front of the bathroom mirror.

4. At the gym.

5. With an ex.

6. With filters.

DO include pictures of yourself...

1. That are close-up and clear.

2. Smiling.

3. With pets.

4. Traveling.

5. Dressed up.

6. Doing something active.

7. That are candid.

In theory, profile pictures should be simple: You pick a couple shots that show off your face, your hobbies, and—let’s be honest—your body.

Yet new research shows we have no idea what the hell we’re doing, especially when a stranger can pick a more flattering picture of ourselves than we can. And if you think that’s surprising, wait until you hear some new stats from a recent report from Hinge.

Researchers studied 1,000 user photos, assigning photo tags (35 in all) to each. They ran the gamut from guys taking selfies to women posing with their hair up. The researchers then ranked the tags to see which type of photos get liked more (and, therefore, who gets more matches) on the app.

Here’s what men should be doing, according to the most-liked pictures:

1. Smile without your teeth. You’re 43% more likely to receive a like. (We interpret this as “master the charming smirk.”)
2. Look straight ahead. Your odds of getting likes jump a whopping 102%. (No poetic stares into the mid-distance.)
3. Stand alone. Your photos get an 11% boost in likes. You also make it easier for her to discern who you actually are.
4. Choose a sports photo. Did you play soccer in college or just like pickup basketball on the weekends? If so, make it your profile pic. It’ll enhance your odds of nabbing a like by 45%. (Note: This is not the same thing as a gym selfie in the mirror.)
5. Opt for a candid shot. Of all the pics she scrolls through, about 80% will be posed. Candids are more refreshing, and increase your chances of getting a like by 15%.
6. Make it black and white. Filters can be tricky. But black and white is classic. Surprisingly enough, they’re also 106% more likely to receive a like.

 Here’s what men should not be doing:

1. Selfies. No one gets a thumbs-up for selfies. In general, selfies 40% less likely to get a like. And if you’re posing in front of a toilet in your bathroom? Your odds plummet by 90%. (Editor’s note: Why would you do that? You’re better than a toilet selfie.)
2. Ditch the beach photo session. Your six-pack might look killer, but men are 80% less likely to receive a like on their beach photo. Whether she thinks you’re vain or not, save it. Let the six-pack abs be a welcome surprise, y’know, later.

Tweak your profile. And when the likes start rolling in, use these real-woman-approved conversation starters.

Hello and welcome to another episode of What Not to Do on Dating Apps. So far this season, we’ve covered your worst dating-app habits and behaviors, as well as the offensive, cliché and simply cringeworthy phrases you should banish from your bio.

Today, let’s talk photos.

On the vast majority of dating apps, your photo is the first thing a potential match sees, and thus the first (and often last) thing they judge. In recent years, newer dating apps like S’More have attempted to provide a less overtly appearance-based platform through gimmicky stunts like blurring out photos, but on most mainstream dating apps, the photo is still king.

Suffice to say, your photos matter. Should your entire value as a potential romantic partner come down to your appearance as captured by a handful of photographs? Probably not. But in the age of dating apps, that’s the game, and you’ll get a lot further if you learn how to play it than you will trying to dismantle it.

In theory, selecting photos for a dating app profile should be fairly simple: just choose the best pictures of yourself. Unfortunately, you and your prospective matches might have different ideas about which photos are your best ones (sorry to your favorite shirtless selfie). While I can’t comb through your photo library and personally select your top five pics, I can tell you which ones to leave out.

1. Selfies

We are living in a post-selfie society.

Besides being the lowest form of photography, selfies are false advertising. While the vast majority of men are terrible at taking selfies in the first place, the only thing worse than a bad selfie on a dating app is a good one. Why? Because well-taken selfies are deceitfully flattering — that’s literally why we’re all so obsessed with taking them. While I don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with posting a particularly flattering, not necessarily representative photo of yourself, the problem with selfies is you’re not fooling anyone. Maybe back in the early days of the front-facing camera you could’ve convinced someone your stellar selfie game had more to do with your god-given good looks than the angle of your camera, but by 2020, we’ve all caught on. We know we’re not as hot as we look in selfies, and we know you’re not, either.

Moreover, as we’ve previously discussed, an abundance of selfies tends to suggest that you’re a weird loner who doesn’t have any friends or family who can take a picture for you. As someone who identifies as a weird loner, I don’t discriminate, but other people will. Having non-selfie photos signals that you are a normal person with friends — a quality most people look for in a romantic partner. If you’re not a normal person with friends, does that mean you don’t deserve love? I don’t know, maybe. What I do know is that if you want to get any matches on a dating app, you’re going to have to at least pretend to have friends. If that means setting up a self-timer on your camera, so be it. But cool it with the selfies. You’re only fooling yourself.

2. Bed selfies

You thought that said “bad selfies” and then thought, “Wait, didn’t we just do this?” didn’t you? Nope, it says “bed selfies,” but truth be told, this entire article could just be a list of different kinds of bad selfies — which, again, is all of them — but I’ll limit specific selfie-shaming to the most egregious examples. Which brings us back to the bed selfie.

You may think a picture of you looking all sleepy-eyed and half-nude in bed looks sexy, but it actually looks lazy. I tend to attribute the amount of bed selfies on men’s dating-app profiles to a discrepancy between what straight men want to see and what they think women want to see. While a snap of a half-nude woman tangled in bed sheets might earn an immediate right-swipe from you, a similar picture of a man tends to come off as sleazy and unkempt. How long have you been in that bed? More importantly, when did you last wash the sheets? Get up, take a shower, get dressed and comb your hair or something. If we end up spending the whole day in bed together at some point, I want to believe it’s because you’re impossibly smitten and my feminine wiles have made you simply lose track of time, not because you don’t have anything better to do.

3. Gym mirror pics

These are usually selfies too. Notice a trend here? Yes, it’s great that you go to the gym, but highlighting this in your profile — particularly in an unsmiling mirror selfie starring you in a muscle tank — tends to come off a little meatheady. If you want to show off your athletic prowess, photos of you (again, taken by someone else) participating in some kind of sporting event, like a road race or even a game of pick-up soccer, might be a better choice.

4. Shirtless pics

Earlier this year, a survey from Dating.com broke the controversial news that straight men who include shirtless photos of themselves in their dating-app profiles tend to perform far worse on online dating platforms, getting 25 percent fewer matches than their fully clothed counterparts.

This, again, seems to represent a discrepancy between what straight men want to see and what they think women want to see. Case in point, the survey found that 90 percent of men share the mistaken belief that a shirtless pic will help their odds on a dating app, while 76 percent of women claimed they wouldn’t consider dating a shirtless-pic guy. This may be understandably baffling to straight men, many of whom I assume would love to see a shirtless woman on a dating app, were the internet not petrified of female presenting nipples for some reason. (Just kidding, the reason is misogyny!) Unfortunately, straight women don’t tend to share the same appreciation for naked male torsos, with 66 percent of those surveyed reporting a shirtless picture of a guy on a dating apps tends to convey “a lack of maturity and self-awareness.”

Is this fair? No. In fact, it’s my personal belief that modern society’s general lack of appreciation for the nude male body and tendency to shame straight men for expressing their sexuality through the same aesthetic choices women are encouraged to embrace only reinforces toxic, heteronormative gender stereotypes that limit male sexuality to very rigid, often problematic models of masculinity.

That said, do I agree with the 66 percent of women who are turned off by a shirtless pic of a man on a dating app because it makes him look like some frat-boy dude bro? Yes, yes I do.

But should you, a man who has every right to celebrate his body in whatever (consensual) way he chooses, let a stranger stop you from baring your torso on Tinder? Probably not! Your body, your choice. But if you must include a shirtless picture in your dating-app profile, let me at least leave you with two tips: 1. Don’t let it be a selfie. 2. It should be taken in a context in which it is normal for you to be shirtless, e.g., at the beach, the pool or on a boat — not in the bathroom at the gym. If you must be shirtless, it should look coincidental, not like you stripped down to your boxers for the explicit purpose of taking a shirtless mirror selfie for Tinder.

5. Photos that are not of you

But you don’t need me to tell you that one, right?

6. Photos of you with someone else’s dog

It’s called dogfishing, look it up.

7. Excessive group pics

You are permitted one to three group pics, depending on how many pictures you have total. (Your ratio of group pics to solo pics should be approximately 1:3 — this is a totally fake, unsubstantiated data point I just made up, but which I now stand by.)

Again, having a picture featuring you and at least one other human helps signal to matches that you are a normal human being who occasionally interacts with other people instead of hiding out Tinder-swiping in your basement lair. However, too many group pics can make it hard to figure out which person you actually are, and in our rapid-swipe era, no one has time for a game of Guess Who.

Also, try to limit any group pics to one to five people. A photo of you and your 25 closest bros tells me nothing about what you actually look like, and is also vaguely threatening. A few men is a friend group, more than that is a fraternity.

8. Photos of you at the Women’s March

We’ve covered this before, but including photos of yourself at the Women’s March can make it seem like you’re trying to use feminism to attract women — because as a straight man on a dating app, everything you’re doing on that platform is presumably done in an attempt to attract women. Going to the Women’s March and being an active male feminist is great and something you should feel good about, but flaunting your Woke Guy status on dating apps can feel a little heavyhanded, if not wokefishy.

9. Photos out of which an ex has been obviously cropped and/or blurred

It would literally be better if you just posted a picture of you with your ex fully on display. Cropping her out has weird, sociopath vibes. Best-case scenario, cropping or blurring out your ex makes it look like you haven’t moved on from your last relationship and your life still revolves around your ex to the extent that you literally don’t have any photos without her. Worst-case scenario, it looks like you murdered her.

Maybe you actually aren’t over your ex yet. I don’t know your life! But if you’re on a dating app, you should at least pretend to be over her. There is no way photos of you with your ex are the only good pictures of you in existence. And even if you’re one of those people who was attached to your high school sweetheart at the hip for 15 years and literally hasn’t taken a photo without them since puberty, just get a friend, a family member, or a random stranger on the street to take new pictures of you. You need them.

10. Pics out of which a child has been obviously cropped and/or blurred

At face value, this may seem like a responsible, considerate move. After all, it’s probably not a great idea to post a child’s photo on the internet (especially on a dating app) without that child’s consent. However, the blurred/cropped face thing is also creepy — potentially creepier — when applied to children. Look, it’s fine to have kids — we can’t all be the Never Married No Kids Guy — but you should probably leave them off your online dating profile. They’ll be making their own soon enough, anyway.

Tired of feeling frustrated every time you check your online dating sites and apps?

If you’re not getting the results you want, there are usually two major reasons. Either your dating profile sucks, or your photos do.

In this article, you’re going to learn 13 online dating photo tips that will help you line up your most attractive photos for Tinder, Bumble, or any other dating app or site, so you can meet higher quality women than ever before.

Our dating experts spent thousands of hours testing and compiling the very best photo hacks to attract women. Access this actionable intel for free!

And if you're not that hot, don't worry – keep reading for how to be magnetic and irresistible to women, no matter what you look like. And since most schools don’t teach how to take a good Tinder photo, you'll find plenty of good ideas for guys datingprofile pictures you can use for inspiration.

Let’s get started!

#1 First Impressions Are More Than Skin Deep

Studies have shown that women take about 1/10th of a second to form an impression of someone in a photograph. If she has a bad impression of you from the start, she's not clicking on your profile or responding to your message.

Here’s where it gets challenging – she’s forming opinions on just about every aspect of what she sees, including your posture, facial expression, and the clothes you’re wearing.

The technical term for this is “thin slicing,” and everyone does it in just about any social situation.

To get on the good side of her first impression, your profile photos need to convey all the reasons you’re such a great catch. This is called “signalling,” and it can make or break your online dating photos.

Think of it this way – she’s going to imagine herself in the lifestyle the profile pic conveys. It’s why unique travel photos are so successful. You're visually communicating that you’re interesting, you'll take her to exotic places, and most importantly, that you have the financial means to do it.

Here’s a comparison so you can see how signalling works:

Which guy do you think she’d rather spend time with? (Spoiler alert: it’s not the couch napper.)

#2 Appeal To Her Natural Instincts

The secret lies in evolution – that's right, we're talking Darwin, survival of the fittest, alpha male theory. Biologically speaking, alpha males are desirable mates, so you want to subconsciously convey your alpha status in your photos.

Here's an example – let's say you play basketball. And action shots make awesome profile pictures for guys, by the way. In a single photograph you communicate that you're athletic and part of a social group, two highly desirable traits.

But it can't be just any basketball picture. The best dating profile photos feature you as the center of attention – you're making a slam dunk, catching the ball, or in control of it. What you AREN'T is the guy in the background, watching the action go down around you. Get the idea?

If you’re hiking with a small group of friends, you’d want to be the one leading the way. You're the captain of the ship, the one in the driver's seat, the guy making the toast… you get the idea.

#3 Your Friends Should Make You Look Good

This almost goes without saying, but make sure you’re the hottest one in the frame of any group photo you choose for an online dating profile. As Tinder’s sociologist Jessica Carbino put it, why risk disappointing her when she realizes you’re not the one she was hoping to meet?

In fact, researchers have proven that the “Ugly Friend Effect” not only exists, it works. When you’re in a picture with guys less attractive than you, you look even more attractive by comparison.

Dan Ariely, a researcher in behavioral economics, did a simple experiment to prove that giving someone a slightly worse option makes you appear more attractive. In his experiment, he showed women two pictures – one of “Tom”, the other of “Jerry” – and asked them which guy they considered more attractive.

When presented with only two options, Tom and Jerry were evenly matched in the looks department. But when Ariely provided an ugly version of Tom in the photo lineup, suddenly Tom was rated as more attractive. When the lineup included “ugly Jerry,” Jerry was the favored one.

The moral of the story? If you have a friend who looks similar to you but less attractive, take some photos next time you’re together with him. It’s important that you look great in the photo even with him cropped out of it, but with him in it, you’ll look even better. (Note: Don’t use this as the primary photo on your profile. You should always be the only person in your main pic.)

#4 The Group Shot Quandary

A lot of guys mistakenly think that including a group shot is mandatory, because it makes them look more social and outgoing.

While it’s true that a group photo does convey those traits, it only helps you if you look great in the photo AND you’re the most attractive one in it.

Most group photos fail on one (or both) of those fronts, and it ends up working against you in the long run because it actually lowers your perceived attractiveness.

It’s probably easier to use a photo of you in a social setting, like a cool cafe or outdoor park. As long as it’s not a selfie, it’s obvious you were there with at least one other person, right?

#5 How To Send Attractive Signals

Remember, this is all about letting her imagine a lifestyle.

For men in their 30s and above, consider using a “dress up” shot. Many women looking for a mature, established man want to know you can hang at a company event or cocktail party.

A picture of you dressed nicely at a rooftop bar, a restaurant on the beach, or a yacht could have the same effect.

But avoid the cliché pictures of you rocking a rented tux at a wedding. Anyone can look good once, right? You want to convey that you look this good all the time.

If you're lucky enough to be a guy in his early 20s, good news – you can skip the suit shot – it might actually hurt your chances by making you seem too serious or even uptight. But you can still convey success by choosing a picture of you at a nice club, restaurant, or other “luxurious” surroundings.

Don’t go overboard with the fancy photos though. You don’t want to look like you’re bragging, and survey data indicates that 81% of singles want to see casual photos showing your everyday life.

But that being said, make sure your everyday life intrigues her.

#6 Channel Your Inner Dos Equis Guy

Yup, you want to be interesting. Everyone has hobbies, so pictures of you doing something you enjoy are a great idea. Riding a motorcycle, playing hockey, going for a hike – this is the proverbial “action” shot.

But make sure the photo doesn't look faked. No matter how hot you are, if you're posing by your muscle car with an “I'm so awesome, check me out” smirk on your face, your inbox isn't going to get the action it deserves.

See the difference?

Your photos should showcase your alpha side – “manly” men build things. They go camping. They go hunting and fishing. They own the dance floor.

But when you're choosing a photo, keep a sharp eye on the surroundings.

If you enjoy cooking, that's an interesting thing to showcase – unless of course, the kitchen in the background is a disaster area. No one wants to be with a slob.

You also want to highlight multiple facets of your personality, so choose a range of photos. 3 to 6 is an ideal number. While you want to have a few photos to give her the sense you’re a real person, it’s really unlikely that you have 6+ pics you look equally attractive in.

#7 Consider Going Pro, Even On Apps Like Tinder

Pro photos can be a great investment. After all, a pro photographer with an expensive camera knows how to manipulate the lighting, help you pose in a natural way that doesn't look forced, and generally bring out your best qualities. Basically, a pro will make you look better than your buddy with an iPhone ever could.

But there’s a catch – you want pro photos that don't scream “I hired a photographer for this.” You want to look casual and natural, like a buddy snapped a photo while you were out having fun.

This means no studio shots with you posing in front of an obvious backdrop. Have the photographer take them in an interesting natural environment, preferably in a few different locations.

When you’re booking a pro photographer, make sure to find one that will allow you to change outfits each time you change locations. Remember, the trick is to make it look like your photos were taken while you were out and about, doing fun, interesting things that align with your interests and personality.

When you use more than one photo with the same background or article of clothing (i.e. button up shirt), it doesn’t take a genius to guess the photos were taken together. If your photos also look like they might have been professionally taken, women will suspect you probably hired a professional photographer for your dating profile. Not cool.

That’s why your photo lineup should not feature multiple photos where you’re sporting the same clothing or even in the same location.

To that same end, you should never use all pro shots. Ideally, you want a good mix of attractive candids with a few pro shots sprinkled throughout your lineup.

Don’t have any good candids? Offer the photographer a little extra to snap some additional photos with a cellphone (in yet another location and outfit, of course). Now you should have what you need.

#8 She Wants To See Everything (Well, Not That)

You'll definitely want to include at least one full body shot that shows you from head to toe. In fact, Zoosk discovered that using a full body shot increases messages received by 203%.

If you want to show off your abs, make sure the photo is taken in a natural setting like the beach, for example. And make sure it shows your face. Naked, faceless torso shots just look tacky.

That being said, feel free to look away from the camera. When you have a variety of poses in your lineup, it’s more visually interesting. The same is true of your expressions – you’ll want some photos with a warm smile, others with a more serious look.

For more tips on how to take Tinder photos (and every other kind, too!), check out the photo advice in our Ultimate Guide To Online Dating.

#9 Know When To Smile

One thing to keep in mind – a recent experiment by Photofeeler found that when you’re looking at the camera, you’re more attractive when you’re smiling. So a good rule of thumb to follow is this: If you’re making eye contact, smile. If you aren’t, smiling vs. not smiling doesn’t matter.

#10 Avoid These Common Pitfalls

You can have six incredible photos, and still sabotage your chances with one bad one. These photographic do's and don'ts will make sure you have a bullet proof photo lineup:

• Don't use a picture of yourself taken in front of a mirror (even if you keep your shirt on this time). Match.com recently surveyed its users, and found that 29% of women were turned off by a photo taken in front of a mirror with a smartphone.
• Think about what that type of photo communicates – you don't have any friends who can take a picture of you, and you're not willing to invest more than 15 seconds to make a good impression.
• The shirtless selfie – just don't. According to the same survey, 1 in 3 responding women said when it comes to dating photos, shirtless selfies were “downright offensive” and “an almost instant dealbreaker.”
• Don't hide your face in your photos. File this under obvious, but if you're going to wear sunglasses and a hat in every single picture, or show yourself from neck down, she's going to wonder if you’re wanted by the authorities, married, hideous, or what else you might be trying to cover up. In fact, 23% of single women say this is their biggest pet peeve when it comes to online dating photographs. Eye contact is essential, especially in your primary photo, as it can help spark a near-instant feeling of connection.
• Don’t use racy photographs. A full 75% of women say overtly sexual photographs are their biggest online dating foul. Keep it classy.
• Don’t use Snapchat filters, especially when it comes to selfies. Authenticity is important to the majority of online daters, and 1 in 3 singles have decided not to message someone on a dating app solely because of heavily filtered photos.
• A few light, natural-looking photo edits can make a big difference, with the key words being ‘natural' and ‘light'. Ideally, you don't want anyone to know your photo was edited at all. Statistics show 61% of online daters think the most attractive photos are natural and unenhanced.

#11 Achieve The Perfect Photo Lineup

Dating website photos should provide an overall look at your lifestyle, and reflect intriguing aspects of your personality.

You don’t want to have all headshots, because that’s boring – not to mention narcissistic. And using all travel or “action” shots will leave her wondering when you’ll have to time to go on a date with her.

Here are 6 types of photos that can work well:

1. Full length shot
2. Closeup (from your shoulders up)
3. Intriguing environment (travel shot, rooftop bar, museum, etc…)
4. A different intriguing environment
5. Activity – like a sport or hobby
6. Non-posed social/group shot

You don’t need all of these, just some of them.

Use this list as a guideline, and don’t worry if you don’t have all 6. You want to look great in all of your photos, so don’t choose a poor one just so you can check it off the list.

The most important thing for you to remember is you’re only as attractive as your worst photo. The photos you choose can make or break your dating profile – good ones equal dates, and bad ones could mean a lot of lonely Friday nights.

#12 Second Opinions Are Your New Best Friend

Once you have a selection of possible photos to use, you’ll need to choose the top 3 to 6 that get the best feedback from others and form the type of photo lineup described in this article.

How do you gather feedback from others? One way is to use one of the internet sites created just for this, like PhotoFeeler.

Or you could ask one of your hot females friends for her opinion. Even better – ask 3 to 5 females to rank them for you.

For the best results, channel your inner geek and assign each photo a point based on where your friends ranked it. So if you have 10 photos, the best photo would get 1 point, and the worst 10 points.

Do this for each friend’s ranking, then add up all the points for each picture. Use the photos that scored the lowest number of points.

Sounds like a complicated process, but choosing the best photos for online dating you can is worth the extra effort. 45% of online daters say the “Pictures” section of a profile is the most important part.

#13 Bring In The Big Guns

Photos are hands down the most important part of your dating profile. If you choose the wrong ones, you’re not going to get the results you want. Talk about frustrating!

Women are visual creatures – just like you. That means photos can make or break you on dating apps and sites. Based on OkCupid data published in Dataclysm, Christian Rudder estimated that photos drive 90% of the action.

And once you’ve got some action in your inbox, you’ve got to to keep that message exchange going until you lock in the date.

Why not save yourself a ton of time and effort, and call in an expert? VIDA is here to make you irresistible on dating sites. We do it all for you… To start, we’ll get 10+ females on our team to rank your photos and determine the most attractive photo lineup possible. Then, we’ll even lightly touch up your best pics.

Want a skilled professional photographer in your area who knows all our best tips and strategies for taking natural-looking photos that capture you in the best light? That’s practically a standard part of the process when you work with a team of experts like VIDA.

… And, really, that’s just the tip of the iceberg of what we can do for you!

Looking to get more dates online? Click here to see how VIDA can get you out with the best-quality women in your local area so you can meet your ideal partner.

Grosso agrees with including your activities in a profile, but says to make sure you don’t fall into Tinder tropes. “The men want to be seen as fun, fit, well-travelled, established, etc. That translates into pictures of them on the ski slopes, Machu Picchu, fishing, at weddings in a giant group shot, out with friends drinking,” she explains. “It’s so generic that it doesn’t stand out. After all, who doesn’t like good food and traveling to exotic locations?! None of these images offer an entry point for conversation.”

“A killer dating photo doesn’t just show people what you look like, it tells them what you’re made of,” agrees Nelson. “If you’re smart, you can use your photos to tell people more about who you are rather than writing it in the bio. No one reads bios, you know that.”

“No pics of them having just caught a fish,” adds Grosso. “No women I know would be turned on by the sight of a dead fish.”

3. Outfits and grooming are key

Keep shirtless pics to a minimum, says Grosso, if you feature any at all. “Don't post too many selfies,” adds Shields. “A couple are fine, but take it easy, otherwise you come across narcissistic.”

In terms of clothing and styling, Nelson recommends colour. “Red is the colour of love, passion, danger. Women are most definitely drawn to it.” She also adds if you don’t like wearing colour, find a backdrop that provides an injection of it. Also, no sunglasses – eyes are the window into the soul.

“Do wear new or dry-cleaned clothes, no faded polo shirts,” adds Shields. “Even a new white T-shirt looks nice.” Dress to impress and make sure your grooming is up to snuff too. “Do neaten up your beard or facial hair, or go clean-shaven,” says Shields. “It can't be somewhere in the middle.”

4. Backgrounds

“Messy backgrounds are distracting and unattractive. You’ll lose people’s attention superfast,” says Nelson. Instead, choose a colourful simple background or something that says something about you. “Its role is just to showcase you.” Grosso adds that you should “have a clean frame, no distractions and strange objects”.

5. Don’t use old photos, even if you look good in them

“Thinking about using that photo from five years ago when you had substantially more hair or were almost two stone lighter? Best to give that a swerve,” says Nelson. “No one wants to feel deceived by their date before they’ve even sat down and got a drink in their hand!”

6. Good quality pictures

In an unsurprising turn of events for a piece in which I spoke to professional photographers, there was a wide consensus that you should get some professional photos taken.

“Good visual content drives engagement, as any marketeer knows, and engagement with your profile is the primary goal when it comes to swiping,” says Nelson. “The more increased visits to your profile, the more dates you’ll get.”

7. Avoid shots with people of the opposite sex

“No photos with members of the opposite sex that [are] younger than their grandparents, even if it’s [your] twin,” says Grosso. “They’ve got three seconds and they shouldn’t be spending it on making disclosures of ‘This is not my girlfriend.’ The same with infants: you don’t need to spend valuable space on your profile, or in your conversation, assuring people you’re not a clandestine parent.

8. Confidence and security

For Grosso, your pictures should say to a potential partner that you will not play into their deepest concerns about men. “For women, that’s safety,” she argues, saying that men need to create profiles that show they are trustworthy. “How do you create trust? Eye contacts and smiles.”

In theory, profile pictures should be simple: You pick a couple shots that show off your face, dating apps pictures, your hobbies, and—let’s be honest—your body.

Yet new research shows we have no idea what the hell we’re doing, especially when a stranger can pick a more flattering picture of ourselves than we can. And if you think that’s surprising, wait until you hear some new stats from a recent report from Hinge.

Researchers studied 1,000 user photos, assigning photo tags (35 in all) to each. They ran the gamut from guys taking selfies to women posing with their hair up. The researchers then ranked the tags to see which type of photos get liked more (and, therefore, who gets more matches) dating apps pictures the app.

Here’s what men should be doing, according to the most-liked pictures:

1. Smile without your teeth. You’re 43% more likely to receive a like, dating apps pictures. (We interpret this as “master the charming smirk.”)
2. Look straight ahead. Your odds of getting likes jump a whopping 102%. (No poetic stares into the mid-distance.)
3. Stand alone. Your photos get an 11% boost in likes. You also make it easier for her to discern who you actually are.
4. Choose a sports photo. Did you play soccer in college or just like pickup basketball on the weekends? If so, dating apps pictures, make it your profile pic, dating apps pictures. It’ll enhance your odds of nabbing a like by 45%. (Note: This is dating apps pictures the same thing as a gym selfie in the mirror.)
5. Opt for a candid shot. Of all the pics she scrolls through, about 80% will be posed. Candids are more refreshing, and increase your chances of dating apps pictures a like by 15%.
6. Make dating apps pictures black and white. Filters can be tricky. But black and white is classic. Surprisingly enough, they’re also 106% more likely to receive a like.

 Here’s what men should not be doing:

1. Selfies. No one gets a thumbs-up for selfies. In general, selfies 40% less likely to get a like. And if you’re posing in front of a toilet in your bathroom? Your odds plummet by 90%. (Editor’s note: Why would you do that? You’re better than a toilet selfie.)
2. Ditch the beach photo session. Your six-pack might look killer, dating apps pictures, but men are 80% less likely to receive a like on their beach photo. Whether she thinks you’re vain or not, save it. Let the six-pack abs be a welcome surprise, y’know, later.

Tweak your profile. And when the likes start rolling in, use these real-woman-approved conversation starters.

Do not include photos of yourself.

1. Holding a fish, dating apps pictures.

2. Partying.

3. In front of the bathroom mirror.

4. At the gym.

5. With an ex, dating apps pictures.

6. With filters.

DO include pictures of yourself.

1. That are close-up and clear.

2. Smiling.

3. With pets.

4. Dating apps pictures.

5. Dressed up.

6, dating apps pictures. Doing something active.

7. That are candid.

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#1 First Impressions Are More Than Skin Deep

Studies have shown that women take about 1/10th of a second to form an impression of someone in a photograph. If she has a bad impression of you from the start, she's not clicking on your profile or responding to your message.

Here’s where it gets challenging – she’s forming opinions on just about every aspect of what she sees, including your posture, facial expression, and the clothes you’re wearing.

The technical term for this is “thin slicing,” and everyone does it in just about any social situation.

To get on the good side dating apps pictures her first impression, your profile photos need to convey all the reasons you’re such a great catch. This is called “signalling,” and it can make or break your online dating photos.

Think of it this way – she’s going to imagine herself in the lifestyle the profile pic conveys. It’s why unique travel photos are so successful, dating apps pictures. You're visually dating apps for asian men that you’re interesting, you'll take her to exotic places, dating apps pictures, and most importantly, that you have the financial means to do it.

Here’s a comparison so you can see how signalling works:

Which guy do you think she’d rather spend time with? (Spoiler alert: it’s not dating apps pictures couch napper.)

#2 Appeal To Her Natural Instincts

The secret lies dating apps pictures evolution – that's right, we're talking Darwin, survival of the fittest, alpha male theory. Biologically speaking, alpha males are desirable mates, so you want to subconsciously convey your alpha status in your photos.

Here's an example – let's say you play basketball. And action shots make awesome profile pictures for guys, by the way, dating apps pictures. In a single photograph you communicate that you're athletic and part of a social group, two highly desirable traits.

But it can't be just any basketball picture. The best dating profile photos feature you as the center of dating apps pictures – you're making a slam dunk, catching the ball, or in control of it. What you AREN'T is the guy in the background, watching the action go down around you. Get the idea?

If you’re hiking with a small group of friends, you’d want to be the one leading the way. You're the captain of the ship, the one in the driver's seat, the guy making the toast… you get the idea.

#3 Your Friends Should Make You Look Good

This almost goes without saying, but make sure you’re the hottest one in the frame of any group photo dating apps pictures choose for an online dating profile. As Tinder’s sociologist Jessica Carbino put it, why risk disappointing her when she realizes you’re not the interracial dating quiz she was hoping to meet?

In fact, researchers have proven that the “Ugly Friend Effect” not only exists, dating apps pictures, it works. When you’re in a picture with guys less attractive than you, you look even more attractive by comparison.

Dan Ariely, dating apps pictures, a researcher in behavioral economics, did a simple experiment to prove that giving someone a slightly worse option makes you appear more attractive. In his experiment, he showed women two pictures – one of “Tom”, the other of “Jerry” – and asked them which guy they considered more attractive.

When presented with only two options, Tom and Jerry were evenly matched in the looks department. But when Ariely provided an ugly version of Tom in the photo lineup, suddenly Tom was rated as more attractive, dating apps pictures. When the lineup included “ugly Jerry,” Jerry was the favored one.

The moral of the story? If you have a friend who looks similar to you but less attractive, take some photos next time you’re together with him. It’s important that you look great in the photo even with him cropped out of it, dating apps pictures, but with him in it, you’ll look even better. (Note: Don’t use this as the primary photo on your profile. You should always be the only person in your main pic.)

#4 The Group Shot Quandary

A lot of guys mistakenly think that including a group shot is mandatory, because it makes them look more social and outgoing.

While it’s true that a group photo does convey those traits, it only helps you if you look great in the photo AND you’re the most attractive one in it.

Most group photos fail on one (or both) of those fronts, and it ends up working against you in the long run because it actually lowers your perceived attractiveness.

It’s probably easier to use a photo of you in a social setting, dating apps pictures, like a dating apps pictures cafe or outdoor park. As long as it’s not a selfie, it’s obvious you were there with at least one other person, right?

#5 How To Send Attractive Signals

Remember, dating apps pictures, this is all about letting her imagine a lifestyle.

For men in their 30s and above, consider using a “dress up” shot. Many women looking for a mature, established man want to know you can hang at a company event or cocktail party.

A picture of you dressed nicely at a rooftop bar, a restaurant on the beach, or a yacht could have dating apps pictures same effect.

But avoid the cliché pictures of you rocking a rented tux at a wedding. Anyone can look good once, dating apps pictures You want to convey that you look this good all the time.

If you're lucky enough to be a guy in his early 20s, dating apps pictures, good news – you can skip the suit shot – it might actually hurt your chances by making you seem too serious or even uptight. But you can still convey success by choosing a picture of you at a nice club, restaurant, or other “luxurious” surroundings.

Don’t go overboard with the fancy photos though, dating apps pictures. You don’t want to look like you’re bragging, dating apps pictures, and survey data indicates that 81% of singles want to see casual photos showing your everyday life.

But that being said, make sure your everyday life intrigues her.

#6 Channel Your Inner Dos Equis Guy

Yup, you want to be interesting. Everyone has hobbies, so pictures dating apps pictures you doing something you enjoy are a great idea. Riding a motorcycle, playing hockey, going for a hike – this is the proverbial “action” shot.

But make sure the photo doesn't look faked. No matter how hot you are, if you're posing by your muscle car with an “I'm so awesome, check me out” smirk on your face, your inbox isn't going to get the action it deserves.

See the difference?

Your photos should showcase your alpha side – “manly” men build things, dating apps pictures. They go camping. They go hunting and fishing. They own the dance floor.

But when you're choosing a photo, keep a sharp eye on the surroundings.

If you enjoy cooking, that's an interesting thing to showcase – unless of course, the kitchen in the background is a disaster area. No one wants to be with a slob.

You also want to highlight multiple facets of your personality, so choose a range of photos. 3 to 6 is an ideal number. While you want to have a few photos to give her the sense you’re a real person, it’s really unlikely that you have 6+ pics you look equally attractive in.

#7 Consider Going Pro, Even On Apps Like Tinder

Pro photos can be a great investment. After all, a pro photographer with an expensive camera knows how to manipulate the lighting, help you pose in a natural way that doesn't look forced, and generally bring out your best qualities. Basically, a pro will make you look better than your buddy with an iPhone ever could.

But there’s a catch – you want pro photos that don't scream “I hired a photographer for this.” You want to look casual and natural, like a buddy snapped a photo while you were out having fun.

This means no studio shots with you posing dating apps pictures front of an obvious backdrop. Have the photographer take them in an interesting natural environment, preferably in a few different locations.

When you’re booking a pro photographer, make sure to find one that will allow you to change outfits each time you change locations. Sex dating tampa, the trick is to make it look like your photos were taken while you were out and about, doing fun, interesting things that align with your interests and personality.

When you use more than one photo with the same background or article of clothing (i.e. button up shirt), it doesn’t take a genius to guess the photos were taken together. If your photos also look like they might have been professionally taken, women will suspect you probably hired a professional photographer for your dating profile. Not cool.

That’s why your photo lineup should not feature multiple photos where you’re sporting the same clothing or even in the same location.

To that same end, dating apps pictures, you the best free dating sites never use all pro shots. Dating apps pictures, you want a good mix of attractive candids dating apps pictures a few pro shots sprinkled throughout your lineup.

Don’t have any good candids? Offer the photographer a little extra to snap some additional photos with a cellphone (in yet another location and outfit, of course). Now you should have what you need.

#8 She Wants To See Everything (Well, Not That)

You'll definitely want to include at least one full body shot that shows you from head to toe. In fact, Zoosk discovered that using a full body shot increases messages received by 203%.

If you want to show off your abs, make sure the photo is taken in a natural setting like the beach, for example. And make sure it shows your face. Naked, faceless torso shots just look tacky.

That being said, feel free to look away from the camera. When you have a variety of poses in your lineup, it’s more visually interesting. The same is true of your expressions – you’ll want some photos with a warm smile, others with a more serious look.

For more tips on how to take Tinder photos (and every other kind, too!), check out the photo advice in our Ultimate Guide To Online Dating.

#9 Know When To Smile

One thing to keep in mind – a recent experiment by Photofeeler found that when you’re looking at the camera, you’re more attractive when you’re smiling. So a good rule of thumb to follow is this: If you’re making eye contact, smile. If you aren’t, smiling vs. not smiling doesn’t matter.

#10 Avoid These Common Pitfalls

You can have six incredible photos, and still sabotage your chances with one bad one. These photographic do's and don'ts will make sure you have a bullet proof photo lineup:

• Don't use a picture of yourself taken in front of a mirror (even if you keep your shirt on this time). Match.com recently surveyed its users, and found that 29% of women were turned off by a photo taken in front of a mirror with a smartphone.
• Think about what that type of photo communicates – you don't have any friends who can take a picture of you, and you're not willing to invest more than 15 seconds to make a good impression.
• The shirtless selfie – just don't. According to the same survey, 1 in 3 responding women said when it comes to dating photos, shirtless selfies were “downright offensive” and “an almost instant dealbreaker.”
• Don't hide your face in your photos. File this under obvious, but if you're going to wear sunglasses and a hat in every single picture, or show yourself from neck down, she's going dating apps pictures wonder if you’re wanted by the authorities, married, hideous, or what else you might be trying to cover up. In fact, 23% why i stopped dating women single women say this is their biggest pet peeve when it comes to online dating photographs. Eye contact is essential, dating apps pictures, especially in your primary photo, as it can help spark a near-instant feeling of connection.
• Don’t use racy photographs. A full 75% of women say overtly sexual photographs are their biggest online dating foul. Keep it classy.
• Don’t use Snapchat filters, especially when it comes to selfies. Authenticity is important to the majority of online daters, and 1 in 3 singles have decided not to message someone on a dating app solely because of heavily filtered photos.
• A few dating apps pictures, natural-looking photo edits can make a big difference, with the key words being ‘natural' and ‘light'. Ideally, you don't want anyone to know your photo was edited at all. Statistics show 61% dating apps pictures online daters think the most attractive photos are natural and unenhanced.

#11 Achieve The Perfect Photo Lineup

Dating website photos should provide an overall look at your lifestyle, and reflect intriguing aspects of your personality.

You don’t want to have all headshots, because that’s boring – not to mention narcissistic. And using all travel or “action” shots will leave her wondering when you’ll have to time to go on a date with her.

Here are 6 types of photos that can work well:

1. Full length shot
2. Closeup (from your shoulders up)
3. Intriguing environment (travel shot, rooftop bar, dating apps pictures, museum, etc…)
4. A different intriguing environment
5. Activity – like a sport or hobby
6. Non-posed social/group shot

You don’t need all of these, just some of them.

Use this list as a guideline, and don’t worry if you don’t have all 6. You want to look great in all of your photos, so don’t choose a poor one just so you can check it off the list.

The most important thing for you to remember is you’re only as attractive as your worst photo. The photos you choose can make or break your dating profile – good ones equal dates, and bad ones could mean a lot of lonely Friday nights.

#12 Second Opinions Are Your New Best Friend

Once you have a selection of possible photos to use, you’ll need to choose the top 3 to 6 that get the best feedback from others and form the type of photo lineup described in this article.

How do you gather feedback from others? One way is to use one of the internet sites created just for this, dating apps pictures, like PhotoFeeler.

Or you could ask one of your hot females friends for her opinion, dating apps pictures. Even better – ask 3 to 5 females to rank them for you.

For the best results, channel your inner geek and assign each photo a point based on where your friends ranked it, dating apps pictures. So if you have 10 photos, the best photo would get 1 point, and the worst 10 points.

Do this for each is dating easier for women reddit ranking, then add up all the points for each picture. Use the photos that scored the lowest number of points.

Sounds like a complicated process, but choosing the best photos for online dating you can is worth the extra effort. 45% of online daters say the dating apps pictures section of a profile is the most important part.

#13 Bring In The Big Guns

Photos are hands down the most important part of your dating profile. If you choose the wrong ones, you’re not going to get the results you want. Talk about frustrating!

Women are visual creatures – just like you. That means photos can make or break you on dating apps and sites. Based on OkCupid data published in Dataclysm, Christian Rudder estimated that photos drive 90% of the action.

And once you’ve got some action in your inbox, you’ve got to to keep that message exchange going until you lock in the date.

Why not save yourself a ton of time and effort, and call in an expert? VIDA is here to make you irresistible on dating sites. We do it all for you… To start, we’ll get 10+ females on our team to rank your photos and determine the most attractive photo lineup possible. Then, we’ll even lightly touch up your best pics.

Want a skilled professional photographer in your area who knows all our best tips and strategies for taking natural-looking photos that capture you in the best light? That’s practically a standard part of the process when you work with a team of experts like VIDA.

… And, really, that’s just the tip of the iceberg of what we can do for you!

Looking to get more dates online? Click here to see how VIDA can get you out with the best-quality women in your local area so you can meet your ideal partner.

The world has changed a lot dating apps pictures, and we must adapt to keep up with these changes. Amid the pandemic, online dating has surged in popularity, and according to Business Insider, the number of dating app users increased by 20% in 2020. Whether we wish to admit it or not, the most important part of your dating profile is undoubtedly your photos. It's the primary way our brains form an opinion of someone. In fact, a survey in EliteSingles highlights the fact that 58% of British singles said they would not open a profile that did not include photos. With this in mind, Perfocal asked dating photographers to give us their tips on how to choose the best possible collection of pictures for your dating profile. So before choosing your Tinder dating photos, take dating sites for washington state prisoners of the 5 must-have dating pics that will make your Tinder profile stand out.

Photo 1: A classic headshot. Put on a happy face and smile

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Photo 2: A candid portrait, don't pose for it, live it

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Photo 3: Shots that can express your hobbies

It is hard to learn a lot about a person from their Tinder profile photos, but take every opportunity you can to highlight your likes and hobbies in this shot, dating apps pictures. One of the best tinder tips for women is to include a photo of yourself in your natural habitat. If you like reading, then why not include a photo while doing precisely that. Or if you love playing sports, perhaps a sporty look will help you match profile pictures with someone else who likes the same sport. Most Tinder profile photos focus just on the person themselves, dating apps pictures, but every picture tells a story, dating apps pictures, so try to convey as much information as you can with this shot, dating apps pictures. If you want to get a message across about the kind of activities you like, what better way to do that than to include a photo of you actually doing it. Most tinder photos are repetitive, and we want to stand out from the crowd, so showing your hobbies or activities is a great way to match profile pictures with a like-minded person.

Photo 4: Full-body shot to compliment your profile pictures

To avoid any misunderstandings, it is always wise to include a full-body shot that shows your physique. These can be some of the hardest to get right in dating photography because now you need to find the right pose, the best lighting, the optimum angle, and of course, the right look. One of the best tinder tips for women is to take this shot outdoors about an hour before sunset. We want the main light source to be around eye-level, so this is the optimum time to achieve the shot with natural light, dating apps pictures. The same tip applies if you shoot indoors, set up the light source around eye-level, and use a wide aperture to blur the background. Shooting from the waist is a good idea so that the overall shot is balanced and you fill the frame with your full body. Make sure to get everything in the frame, and check that your background is not distracting or taking away from you.

Photo 5: The selfie. All dating profiles should include one

Yes we are a photography company and we can deliver professional dating profile photo shoots to you on-demand. but we are Dating apps pictures saying no to dating apps pictures While it is never a good idea to use a phone selfie as a professional portrait, it's a great shot to include in your Tinder photos.

The key here is to try not to hide the fact that you're taking a selfie but rather to embrace it. Selfies are fun, dating apps pictures, they're personal, and they tell the other person a little bit more about you and your personality. Unlike your other dating pics, this shot is all about the eyes. Try to angle your phone until it is pointing slightly up or down. We don't want good usernames for dating sites selfie that looks like a headshot, we want to look playful and free, dating apps pictures. The camera is literally an arm's length away from you, so bear in mind that perspective can be deceiving at this short distance. That's why angling the phone or tilting your head can lead to much more interesting shots.

Having said so, dating apps pictures, it's not a bad idea to take your selfies with an actual camera, instead of just your smart phone. Cameras have physically larger and better sensors that produces images in much higher quality that modern phones still can't compete with, dating apps pictures. You might even want someone else (like a friend or a photographer) to help you mimick a "selfie-like" professional portrait!

Big no-nos, dating apps pictures. The photos we would not recommend to use

No set of Tinder tips for women would be complete without pointing out the photos you should avoid using. Firstly, no matter what you think at the time, duckface photos are never an attractive look. Avoid looking the same in every photo, so maybe add sunglasses in one, but make sure to show your eyes in the others, after all, they are the window to the soul ;)

Most importantly, if there are other people in the shot, dating apps pictures, make sure it's obvious which one is you. Group shots are okay as a candid shot or one that expresses your interests, but remember that you're trying to promote yourself as much as possible, so you need to be the focus of the shot.

Ultimately, your selection of photos are how you wish to be represented and you're going to have better quality matches if you are in fact providing a truthful representation. You are not one-dimensional and neither should your photos be!

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Grosso agrees with including your activities in a profile, but says to make sure you don’t fall into Tinder tropes. “The men want to be seen as fun, fit, well-travelled, dating apps pictures, established, etc. That translates into pictures of them on the ski slopes, dating apps pictures, Machu Picchu, fishing, dating apps pictures weddings in a giant group shot, out with friends drinking,” she explains. “It’s so generic that it doesn’t stand out. After all, who doesn’t like good food and traveling to exotic locations?! None of these images offer an entry point for conversation.”

“A killer dating photo doesn’t just show people what you look like, dating apps pictures, it tells them what you’re made of,” agrees Nelson. “If you’re smart, you can use your photos to tell people more about who you are rather than writing it in the bio. No one reads bios, dating apps pictures, you know that.”

“No pics of them having just caught a fish,” adds Grosso. “No women I know would be turned on by the sight of a dead fish.”

3. Outfits and grooming are key

Keep shirtless pics to a minimum, says Grosso, if you feature any at all. “Don't post too many selfies,” adds Shields. “A couple are fine, but take it easy, otherwise you come across narcissistic.”

In terms of clothing and styling, Nelson dating apps pictures colour. “Red is the colour of love, passion, danger. Women are most definitely drawn to it.” She also adds if you don’t like wearing colour, find a backdrop that provides an injection free bisexual dating sites it, dating apps pictures. Also, no sunglasses – eyes are the window into the soul.

“Do wear new or dry-cleaned clothes, no faded polo shirts,” adds Shields. “Even a new white T-shirt looks nice.” Dress to impress and make sure your grooming is up to snuff too. “Do neaten up your beard or facial hair, or go clean-shaven,” says Shields. “It can't be somewhere in the middle.”

4, dating apps pictures. Backgrounds

“Messy backgrounds are distracting and unattractive. You’ll lose people’s attention superfast,” says Nelson. Instead, choose a colourful simple background or something that says something about you. “Its role is just to showcase you.” Grosso adds that you should “have a clean frame, no distractions and strange objects”.

5. Don’t use old photos, even if you look good in them

“Thinking about using that photo from five years ago when you had substantially more hair or were almost two stone lighter? Best to give that a swerve,” says Nelson. “No one wants to feel deceived by their date before they’ve even sat down and got a drink in their hand!”

6. Good quality pictures

In an unsurprising turn of events for a piece in which I spoke to professional photographers, there was a wide consensus that you should get some professional photos taken.

“Good visual content drives engagement, as any marketeer knows, dating apps pictures, and engagement with your profile is the primary goal when it comes to swiping,” says Nelson. “The more increased visits to your profile, the more dates you’ll get.”

7. Avoid shots with people of the opposite sex

“No photos with members of the opposite sex that [are] younger than their grandparents, even if it’s [your] twin,” says Grosso. “They’ve got three seconds and they shouldn’t be spending it on making disclosures of ‘This is not my girlfriend.’ The same with infants: you don’t need to spend valuable space dating apps pictures your profile, or in your conversation, assuring people you’re not a clandestine parent.

8. Confidence and security

For Grosso, your pictures should say to a potential partner that you will not play into their deepest concerns about men. “For women, that’s safety,” she argues, saying that men need to dating apps compared profiles that show they are trustworthy. “How do you create trust? Eye contacts and smiles.”

Hello and welcome to another episode of What Not to Do on Dating Apps. So far this season, we’ve covered your worst dating-app habits and behaviors, as well as the offensive, cliché and simply cringeworthy phrases you should banish from your bio.

Today, let’s talk photos.

On the vast majority of dating apps, your photo is the first thing a potential match sees, and thus the first (and often last) thing they judge. In recent years, newer dating apps like S’More have attempted to provide a less overtly appearance-based platform through dating apps pictures stunts like blurring out photos, but on most mainstream dating apps, the photo is still king.

Suffice to say, your photos matter. Should your entire value as dating apps pictures potential romantic partner come down to your appearance as captured by a handful of photographs? Probably not. But in the age of dating best dating app london, that’s the game, and you’ll get a lot further if you learn how to play it than you will trying to dismantle it.

In theory, selecting photos for a dating app profile should be fairly simple: just choose the best pictures of yourself. Unfortunately, you and your prospective matches might have different ideas about which photos are your best ones (sorry to your favorite shirtless selfie). While I can’t comb through your photo library and personally select your top five pics, I can tell you which ones to leave out.

1. Selfies

We are living in a dating apps pictures society.

Besides being the lowest form of photography, selfies are false advertising. While the vast majority of men are terrible at taking selfies in the first place, the only thing worse than a bad selfie on a dating app is a good one. Why? Because well-taken selfies are deceitfully flattering — that’s literally why we’re all so obsessed with taking them. While I don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with posting a particularly flattering, not necessarily representative photo of yourself, the problem with selfies is you’re not fooling anyone. Maybe back in the early days of the front-facing camera you could’ve convinced someone your stellar selfie game had more to do with your god-given good looks than the angle of your camera, but by 2020, we’ve all caught on. We know we’re not as hot as we look in selfies, and we know you’re not, either.

Moreover, as we’ve previously discussed, dating apps pictures, an abundance of selfies tends to suggest that you’re a weird loner who doesn’t have any friends or family who can take a picture for you, dating apps pictures. As someone who identifies as a weird loner, I don’t discriminate, but other people will. Having non-selfie photos signals that you are a normal person with friends — a quality most people look for in a romantic partner. If you’re not a normal person with friends, does that mean you don’t deserve love? I don’t know, maybe. What I do know is that if you want to get any matches on a dating app, you’re going to have to at least pretend to have friends. If that means setting up a self-timer on your camera, so be it. But cool it with the selfies. You’re only fooling yourself.

2. Bed selfies

You thought that said “bad selfies” and then thought, “Wait, didn’t we just do this?” didn’t you? Nope, it says “bed selfies,” but truth be told, this entire article could just be a list of different kinds of bad selfies — which, again, is all of them — but I’ll limit specific selfie-shaming to the most egregious examples. Which dating apps pictures us back to the bed selfie.

You may think a picture of you looking all sleepy-eyed and half-nude in bed looks sexy, but it actually looks lazy. I tend to dating apps pictures the amount of bed selfies on men’s dating-app profiles to a discrepancy between what straight men want to see and what they think women want to see. While a snap of a half-nude woman tangled in bed sheets might earn an immediate right-swipe from you, a similar picture of a man tends to come off as sleazy and unkempt. How long have you been in that bed? More importantly, when did you last wash the sheets? Get up, take a shower, get dressed and comb your hair or something. If we end up spending the whole day in bed together at some point, I want to believe it’s because you’re impossibly smitten and my feminine wiles have made you simply lose track of time, not because you don’t have anything better to do.

3. Gym mirror pics

These are usually selfies too. Notice a trend here? Yes, dating apps pictures, it’s great that you go to the gym, but highlighting this in your profile — particularly in an unsmiling mirror selfie starring you in a muscle tank — tends to come off a little meatheady. If you want to show off your dating apps pictures prowess, photos of you (again, taken by someone else) participating in some kind of sporting event, like a road race or even a game of pick-up soccer, might be a better choice.

4, dating apps pictures. Shirtless pics

Earlier this year, a survey from Dating.com broke the controversial news that straight men who include shirtless photos of themselves in their dating-app profiles tend to perform far worse on online dating platforms, getting 25 percent fewer matches than their fully clothed counterparts.

This, again, seems to represent a discrepancy between what straight men want to see and what they think women want to see. Case in point, the survey found that 90 percent of men share the mistaken belief that a shirtless pic will help their odds on a dating app, while 76 percent of women claimed they wouldn’t consider dating a shirtless-pic guy, dating apps pictures. This may be understandably baffling to straight men, many of whom I assume would love to see a shirtless woman on a dating app, were the internet not petrified of female presenting nipples for some reason. (Just kidding, the reason is misogyny!) Unfortunately, straight women don’t tend to share the same appreciation for naked male torsos, with 66 percent of those surveyed reporting a shirtless picture of a guy on a dating apps tends to convey “a lack of maturity and self-awareness.”

Is this fair? No. In fact, it’s my personal belief that modern society’s general lack of appreciation for the nude dating apps pictures body and tendency to shame straight men for expressing their sexuality through the same aesthetic choices women are encouraged to embrace only reinforces toxic, dating apps pictures, heteronormative gender stereotypes that limit male sexuality to very rigid, often problematic models of masculinity.

That said, do I agree with the 66 percent of women who are turned off by a shirtless pic of a man on a dating app because it makes him look like some frat-boy dude bro? Yes, yes I do.

But should you, a man who has every right to celebrate his body in whatever (consensual) way he chooses, let a stranger stop you from baring your torso on Tinder? Probably not! Your body, your choice. But if you must include a shirtless picture in your dating-app profile, let me at least leave you with two tips: 1. Don’t let it be a selfie. 2. It should be taken dating apps pictures a context in which it is normal for you to be shirtless, e.g., at the beach, the pool or on a boat — not in the bathroom at the gym. If you must be shirtless, it should look coincidental, not like dating apps pictures stripped down to your boxers for the explicit purpose of taking a shirtless mirror selfie for Tinder.

5. Photos that are not of you

But you don’t need me to tell you that one, best jewish dating apps. Photos of you with someone else’s dog

It’s called dogfishing, look it up.

7. Excessive group pics

You are permitted one to three group pics, dating apps pictures, depending on how many pictures you have total. (Your ratio of group pics to solo pics should be approximately 1:3 — this is a totally fake, unsubstantiated data point I just made up, but which I now stand by.)

Again, having a picture featuring you and at least one other human helps signal to matches that you are a normal human being who occasionally interacts with other people instead of hiding out Tinder-swiping in your basement lair. However, too many group pics can make it hard to figure out which person you actually are, and in our rapid-swipe era, dating apps pictures, no one has time for a game of Guess Who.

Also, try to limit any group pics to one to five people. A photo of you and your 25 closest bros tells me nothing about what you actually look like, and is also vaguely threatening. A few men is a friend group, more than that is a fraternity.

8. Photos of you at the Women’s March

We’ve covered this before, but including photos of yourself at the Women’s March can make it seem like you’re trying to use feminism to attract women — because as a straight man on a dating app, dating apps pictures, everything you’re doing on that platform is presumably done in an attempt to attract women. Going to the Women’s March and being an active male feminist is great and something you should feel good about, but flaunting your Woke Guy status on dating apps can feel a little heavyhanded, if not wokefishy.

9. Photos out of which an ex has been obviously cropped and/or blurred

It dating apps pictures literally be better if you just posted a picture of you with your ex fully on display. Cropping her out has weird, sociopath vibes, dating apps pictures. Best-case scenario, cropping or blurring out your ex makes it look like you haven’t moved on from your last relationship and your life still revolves around your ex to the extent that you literally don’t have any photos without her. Worst-case scenario, it looks like you murdered her.

Maybe you actually aren’t over your ex yet. I don’t know your life! But if you’re on a dating app, you should at least pretend to be over her. There is no way photos of you with your ex are the only good pictures of you in existence. And even if you’re one of those people who was attached to your high school sweetheart at the hip for 15 years and literally hasn’t taken a photo without them since puberty, just get a friend, a family member, or a random stranger on the street to take new pictures of you. You need them.

10. Pics out of which a child has been obviously cropped and/or blurred

At face value, this may seem like a responsible, considerate move. After all, it’s probably not a great idea to post a child’s photo on the internet (especially on a dating app) without that child’s consent. However, the blurred/cropped face thing is also creepy — potentially creepier — when applied to children. Look, it’s fine to have kids — we can’t all be the Never Married No Kids Guy — but you should probably leave them off your online dating profile. They’ll be making their own soon enough, anyway.